[Sandra_18X]

I used to post like a crazy person here, and I've slowly dropped off over the last few months. I'm sorry about that.

My husband and I were having a lot of financial troubles and things like that so we've since moved to his hometown and are currently rebuilding our lives. It's been almost two years since his affair, that honestly doesn't really come to mind like it did a year ago and two years ago obviously.

Our marriage is stronger than ever. It's just the rebuilding of the rest of our life together I want to be done with. I've finally found a job up here so we're doing a lot better than we were.

To those new members who are struggling: it takes time. Don't rush yourself to heal, don't push yourself to try to "forgive" them if you want to stay with them either. You go at your own pace and if they don't like that, then kick them to the curb. They didn't deserve you in the first place and if they're not willing to be patient, they DEFINITELY don't deserve you.

You heal the way you see fit. The most important rule of it all is to take care of yourself. Do what makes you happy, make sure you eat or if you're going overboard, don't drown your sorrows in food. Find hobbies you enjoy, exercise and just try not to think about the things that bother you. You will be surprised to find how much easier it is to deal with when you're busy with other things. Before you know it, it doesn't hurt anymore.

*****Big hugs****** to all of you, new and old members.

Angel