[adunnyByday]

For what its worth, I would give up the game in a second for my wife.
Marriage to me is about being with my best friend every day.
I gave up golf a while back for my career at the time and would do so again in a minute if that choice was presented to me.

If the choice is golf or marriage and someone is even thinking about the options, then there are more issues at stake than just the game of golf. They are just being cloaked by an easy target.

Great post. I do think there are issues there that we are not privy to. It seems like the OP already is leaning one way. Honestly, to have gone through all this trouble seeking the approval of strangers leads me to believe that the OP is just trying to reason out what he is about to do.

IMO, love is not a conditional thing... it's either there or it's not. There is no maybe's or if's or somewhat's. It's yes or no.

[teridbruse]

If the choice is golf or marriage and someone is even thinking about the options, then there are more issues at stake than just the game of golf. They are just being cloaked by an easy target.

I agree with JB, sounds like shes targeting golf because its an easy target (or one she knows will hit home with you). Was this an issue when you lived in your old location? Any chance of just moving back and killing 2 birds with one stone?

[pataagusata]

Well said. +5

Give up marriage. You will only have one golfing buddy but there are millions of women out there.

[infollafago]

If golf is more important to you than your marriage, then fine. It's your life and you are free to live it any way you want.

Now, when you tell you kids that their mom nad dad are getting a divorce, are you going to be able to tell them the truth why? Will you be able to tell your friends, family, and importantly your kids, that you love golf more than you love your wife and that is why you are getting divorced.

If you can tell people that your handicap means more to you than she does, then you need the divorce.

[Unoloknovagog]

For what its worth, I would give up the game in a second for my wife.
Marriage to me is about being with my best friend every day.
I gave up golf a while back for my career at the time and would do so again in a minute if that choice was presented to me.

If the choice is golf or marriage and someone is even thinking about the options, then there are more issues at stake than just the game of golf. They are just being cloaked by an easy target.

Oh come on, there is a handicap on the line here!

But seriously, do whatever you feel. We can all sit here and say marriage is eternal and you should stick by your wife always, but we aren't sitting in your shoes. Personally I wouldn't throw away 25 years of marriage with a great woman for a game that you'll still be able to play if you stay with her. Make a compromise, start a garden together or something so you can spend more time together.

[tousuarshatly]

Well said. +5

only 5? see Tina...thats why I would give you up!

there are 16 members viewing this thread....and 1 guest. I hope its not his wife!

[Illisezek]

fwiw, it's really not anonymity, the admins can easily trace this post back to your original screen name.

Hawk said it well, it's about compromise. You have some tough questions to answer as to what is really more important to you. I wish you luck in finding your answer.

[teridbruse]

but there are millions of women out there.

But how many of the millions would be willing to put up with him? How long until someone makes a Tiger reference? I know some of us considered it....

[anatmob]

For what its worth, I would give up the game in a second for my wife.
Marriage to me is about being with my best friend every day.
I gave up golf a while back for my career at the time and would do so again in a minute if that choice was presented to me.

If the choice is golf or marriage and someone is even thinking about the options, then there are more issues at stake than just the game of golf. They are just being cloaked by an easy target.

i agree with JB here ive stopped hitting the range as much and have started playing 1-2 in 2 weeks because she said i love golf more just once. my wife and kids are my world and i everything do is for them except play golf. im lucky in the fact my 3 yr old has taken a shine to golf as it gives me my ticket to play with her and my wife encourages it. but if it was a flat out choice family first everytime.
for what its worth i think you need to talk to her and come to a compromise.

[infollafago]

I am also going to say, there is nothing wrong with choosing not to be with your wife anymore.