[jstizzle]

why is it my husband wants me to wear no makeup not to wear nice clothes or look nice even for myself!!

You should ask him instead of asking us. We have no idea what goes on in your husband's mind.

In Islam we all encouraged to look pleasant, even if it is just for ourselves (NB: pleasant does not equal enticing).

[tinamasak]

Women in british society who are muslim are becoming more independent so why should a man rule a woman that is pure wrong..

actually the relationship guidelines between man and woman described by islam are not subjective. which is to say that they are the same whether a woman is independent or not. and no men ruling women is not a correct way to look at it. in sha Allah there are some very knowledgeable sisters on this forum who can clarify this for you.

[Anakattawl]

I think its time i had a divorce and married someone who is not backward in his thinking.

[avaicavum]

I may be wrong, but the posts of "Pakistani-lady" seem very strange and almost like a non-Muslim trying to provoke. Some of "her" comments are borderline Kufr and I can't imagine a Muslim women knowing nothing about gender roles in Islam etc.

I hope I'm wrong of course...

[tinamasak]

I may be wrong, but the posts of "Pakistani-lady" seem very strange and almost like a non-Muslim trying to provoke. Some of "her" comments are borderline Kufr and I can't imagine a Muslim women knowing nothing about gender roles in Islam etc.

I hope I'm wrong of course...

well i think you are wrong.
some people may not know about things we take for granted. we should give them the knowledge in sha Allah

[vernotixas]

Perhaps he is jealous of your good looks!!
This is first I have heard that husbend doesn't want their wife to look nice!!
Perhaps he feels others (non mehram) will see you.
Allahualam

[lidersontop]

I think its time i had a divorce and married someone who is not backward in his thinking.

Astaghfirullah....you should be appreciative of what Allah has given you

you need to change your thinking....him wanting you to cover up is a sign of him honouring you, your beauty is something special which should only be shared with mahrams...why are you giving strange men the pleasure of seeing you?

[Anakattawl]

men will look at you no matter what you wear...

[Anakattawl]

Perhaps he is jealous of your good looks!!
This is first I have heard that husbend doesn't want their wife to look nice!!
Perhaps he feels others (non mehram) will see you.
Allahualam

he is better looking than me!! why shouldnt he cover up lol

[Anakattawl]

I may be wrong, but the posts of "Pakistani-lady" seem very strange and almost like a non-Muslim trying to provoke. Some of "her" comments are borderline Kufr and I can't imagine a Muslim women knowing nothing about gender roles in Islam etc.

I hope I'm wrong of course...

no i am a muslim but i have my own independence thanks but can you not be judgemental i am what i am not something you think i should be...

[Hankie]

Astaghfirullah what's wrong with people nowadays..

[fuslkdhfma]

no i am a muslim but i have my own independence thanks but can you not be judgemental i am what i am not something you think i should be...

quite frankly, your the judgmental one here, judging your husband and calling him "backwards" just because he doesn't want you to wear make-up or wear certain clothes.

have you taken a minute to think about why he must have said these things to you? Did you realize he cares for you and loves you and doesn't want others to take you away from him or other men looking at you? Did you talk to him about this issue?

And I am pretty sure your not revealing the full story here. He probably does not want you to wear revealing clothes; not just good clothes in general.

[fuslkdhfma]

I may be wrong, but the posts of "Pakistani-lady" seem very strange and almost like a non-Muslim trying to provoke. Some of "her" comments are borderline Kufr and I can't imagine a Muslim women knowing nothing about gender roles in Islam etc.

I hope I'm wrong of course...

it's most likely a non-muslim making threads here to try and stir controversy

[emupsMaispubs]

it's most likely a non-muslim making threads here to try and stir controversy

I'm non Muslim. I only make threads to learn more or get clarification on something. There have been a few recent posts (revert2001 comes to mind) that seem like non muslim trolls.

-Jason

[Vmysobfi]

From your posts that I have read it sounds like you are not happy with the fact that your husband can't give you kids, it is the underlying problem here. Everything else will seem very difficult from here on end. Your general unhappiness with him is only going to grow if you don't keep it in check and understand that it is the will of Allah.

As far as divorce is concerned it is your right if it is for the above reason only. None of the other stuff are valid excuses imo.

[Vmysobfi]

strange

Husband is not giving permission to do make up and he saying to do Hijab for these small reason you are decided to take divorce its strange sister

Allah ke nabi sallahualyhiwassalam ne farma jiska mafum he :-
agar Allah ke baad agar kisi ke samne sajde ka hukm agar aata to wo shohar ke samne sajda hota.

AAllah ke nabi sallahualyhiwassalam ne farma jiska mafum he:-
Agar tumara shohar din raat kahe aur raat ko din to tum iski haa me haa milao.

aur meri sister tumara shohar tume Deen ke aitabaar se make up karne mana kar raha he aur hijab karne keh raha he aur isko use haq he aur tum deeni mamlat ke reason se divorce lena chah rahi ho to aap socho aap ky decision le rahe ho.

Allah ne Divorce ko halal to kiya lekin ye jo hukm allah ne nazil kiya yahi hukm allah ko pasand b nahi. Yani Talaq allah ko pasand nahi.

I feel you should attend ladies ijtema's try to learn some islamic things if its possible read Islamic books like Fazaile Aamal aur any other
and last my request is go in 3 days jamat with your hubby

[Les Allen]

strange

Husband is not giving permission to do make up and he saying to do Hijab for these small reason you are decided to take divorce its strange sister

Allah ke nabi sallahualyhiwassalam ne farma jiska mafum he :-
agar Allah ke baad agar kisi ke samne sajde ka hukm agar aata to wo shohar ke samne sajda hota.

AAllah ke nabi sallahualyhiwassalam ne farma jiska mafum he:-
Agar tumara shohar din raat kahe aur raat ko din to tum iski haa me haa milao.

aur meri sister tumara shohar tume Deen ke aitabaar se make up karne mana kar raha he aur hijab karne keh raha he aur isko use haq he aur tum deeni mamlat ke reason se divorce lena chah rahi ho to aap socho aap ky decision le rahe ho.

Allah ne Divorce ko halal to kiya lekin ye jo hukm allah ne nazil kiya yahi hukm allah ko pasand b nahi. Yani Talaq allah ko pasand nahi.

I feel you should attend ladies ijtema's try to learn some islamic things if its possible read Islamic books like Fazaile Aamal aur any other
and last my request is go in 3 days jamat with your hubby

Brother Shahid. Do you really think that Islam plays any role in her thinking or in her life? Her/his posts are the posts of a Mulhid.
Allahu 'Alam.

[Vmysobfi]

Brother Shahid. Do you really think that Islam plays any role in her thinking or in her life? Her/his posts are the posts of a Mulhid.
Allahu 'Alam.

Mulhid??? means

[Krruqgwt]

The thing is he knows what i was like before marriage why can't he accept me for what i am!!

If he knows who you are, he does not need your make up , better ask yourself why do you need hide yourself behind mask

[sallythetolly]

Coming from a family who are well versed in makeup and its intricacies some women actually don’t know how to use makeup, in fact the idea of many Asian women is try to lighten their skin tone by a few degrees and they consider that "beauty". Versus most Asian women have superb natural skin tone and try to adjust it is a travesty. And then they pileup on huge heavy Jewellary on top of it while Jewellery needs to be artistic, sophisticated and match the time of the day, skin tone, lighting conditions and occasion.

Having the most gold isn't the idea.

Same with dressing.

The idea of makeup application, Jewellary, dress coordination and how to carry themselves hasn’t touched many Muslim women, unfortunately.

Anyways...

Well people are very different in the way they see things. My family was never into all these make up things and I am not even interested in learning these skills. Anyway what I want to add is that I have seen women looking very pleasing and a strange beauty reflecting from them without all these make ups maashaaAllah but merely because of their character like patience, forbearance, peaceful in nature, humble talks and religiousness irrespective of their age or color. Perhaps its the inner beauty. I see all these make up things look too artificial on women and I am not quite impressed with that. I do not know what impact it leaves on men though. One thing for sure is more the women come along with modesty, she looks more beautiful for how truthful are the words of the Prophet SAW, "And modesty is never part of anything, except that it beautifies it." So a woman who covers her face out of modesty looks more beautiful than the one who leaves the face open with all the make up.

I heard in a bayan of sheikh Maulana Abdus Sattar (DB) to the effect that aforetime the bride wakes up for tahajjud prior to the wedding day to beautify her face with the special noor and nowadays even the women from noble families go to beauty parlours. I am not trying to make a point if going to beauty parlours are allowed or not but for sure it was looked down before and even today some families keep away from that. All these make up things have been promoted too much and unfortunately many muslim women have fallen for it. I really wish we women pay more attention to our akhlaaq and deen for the beauty it brings can never be matched with anything artificial.
Khair I will leave this thread with a beautiful duaa taught by our Prophet SAW, "O Allah! assist us with knowledge, embellish us with forbearance, dignify us with piety and beautify us with peace." Ameen