[andreas]

How do I get rid of these desires? I don't know what to do I have been on and off for like 2 years and I just want to get rid of it? What am I suppose to do...

[Storwaytozy]

what is P** and M*****?

[dogdesign]

what is P** and M*****?

Porn and Masturbation.

[andreas]

Porn and Masturbation.

Yeah, I just need help I feel as if I can't get rid of these desires no matter how hard I try.

[Storwaytozy]

Read the attached doc..

[Storwaytozy]

n this one too..

[Bwvapays]

Asalamu 3alaykum, maybe some of these points may help Inshallah

1) make sincere and desperate duas that Allah swt helps you

2) Avoid using the computer unless someone else is in the room

3)remember the shaytaan is sneaky and he is described in the Quran as "khanas" i.e. he sneaks/withdraws so very important once you feel that these feelings and wasawis are starting to increase do something drastic to counter them

4) avoid being in isolation during difficult times

5) try and keep a busy schedule to avoid feelings of boredom

6) Increase interactions with pious people

7) If marriage is an option try and seek that path

8) If you do fall in the error don't become depressed and despair but turn to Allah swt and remember that all tribulations are a baraka for a muslim

9) Increase your religious knowledge and worship

[ViagraPriceBuying]

As-Salaamu 'alaykum waRahmatullah

The following is an extract from one of Shaykh Yunus Patel (RA)’s talks, in regards to giving up sins :

“Allah Ta’ala forbid, if some criminal has to put a gun to your head, will you say : ‘It is difficult for me to stop watching this porn now. Allow me to watch all these sinful pictures first before you blow my head.” Or will you start reading duas for Allah Ta’ala to protect you?

…Similarly, death is following us all. What if the Angel of Death visits at that time, to extract your soul ? Would you want your life to end watching porn – because the Angel of Death will not give time for you to switch off the computer and make taubah?

…Imagine dying when viewing pornography, and people talking after you die : “How did he die ? When? Where ? What was he doing?” – Would anyone like that someone says that he died in front of the computer and he was watching dirty pictures? ”

Website : YunusPatel.co.za

[ViagraPriceBuying]

Giving up Sins : An Easy Prescription

By Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (Rahmatullahi 'alayh)

There are many, many Muslim brothers and sisters throughout the world who due to various negative influences and bad elements, find themselves ‘de-railed’ from Deen. Many others sit on the fence, wanting to enjoy or benefit from both sides of the fence – engaging in sins as well as being practical on certain teachings of Deen. However, deep in their hearts is the desire to get back on track, and once again become good, practical Muslims; to jump off the fence and enjoy the green pastures of Islam. So they write, e-mail, phone, fax, seeking guidance and direction.

The main weakness is indulgence in sins; sometimes many sins and excessive indulgence in those sins. A standard prescription that I give as a reply, is as follows. Alhamdulillah, many who followed through with the prescription have found a whole new life – of peace, happiness, blessings and mercy. On tasting the sweetness that comes with obedience, there is no desire to return to any form of disobedience.

- The ideal is that we abstain from sins, out of love for Allah Ta’ala. He has granted us so much – He has granted us everything and it is the nature of human beings that we love the person that is kind and generous to us. Then what of Allah Ta’ala who has provided us with plentiful – with everything? The sight, hearing, speech, the organs that are functioning in such an amazing manner, the limbs - all in our service – for eating, drinking, walking, sitting, etc. The gifts of wealth : the clothing, shelter, transport, food, drink, and so many other comforts. …We use them all, but do we keep in mind, the Generous Benefactor ? Do we give thanks for these bounties or show any appreciation to the Giver ?

- Developing the conscious awareness that Allah Ta’ala is with us : He is watching us, He is hearing us, He knows all and everything about us; We cannot hide from Him; We cannot conceal our actions from Him. Then should we not feel ashamed that in His Presence, we are disobeying Him? Are we not showing ingratitude to the Benefactor, when engaging in sins in His very Presence ?

- Keep in mind that the angels too are witness to all our actions; that the earth is recording our behaviour and that all of it is also noted in our books of deeds – that we are accountable to Allah Ta’ala on the Day of Judgement.

- Added to this, our actions are also presented to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa-Sallam), so we should give thought to whether our actions are a source of joy or grief to him. …In this manner, we will develop that shame and modesty which will make it easy to restrain from Haraam.

- Muraqabah is meditating: We should reflect over our deeds for the day and seek forgiveness for shortcomings and resolve not to return to those bad deeds. We should also express gratitude on good deeds and make dua for an increase in them.

- Ponder over the fact that the Angel of Death does not give respite. It must not be that whilst obeying the nafs in sinful pleasure, the Angel of death visits; and departure is in disgrace, and return to Allah Ta’ala is at a time when He is angry, and that death is an embarrassment to the person, family and community who find out that death came in sin. May Allah Ta’ala protect us all from death in a state of transgression, but this is very much a reality.

…Death visits – more often, very unexpectedly, and no true Muslim would want to be seized by the Angel of death when Allah Ta’ala is displeased. I often say : We now have instant tea, and instant coffee, and instant cereal and instant pudding and so many other things on the market are instant – we are also living in times when death is just as instant. So any sin is too much of a risk in the face of the reality of death. …The Hadith is explicit : That we will be resurrected on the day of Judgement as we have died and we will die as we have lived. …Would any Muslim want to rise up on the Day of Judgement in sin, for all of mankind to witness what kind of life he led?

- Ponder over the fact that Allah Ta’ala has blessed us with the gift of sight, hearing, health, wealth, and so much else – and has also granted us the gift of respect. However, what He gives, He can also take away. He has explicitly stated that ingratitude for His Gifts will draw very severe punishment. So is sin not abuse and ingratitude for the gifts of sight, of heart, of mind, of limbs ?

A little contemplation on the consequences of such behaviour and a little bit of mujahada – which entails ‘not doing’ and Alhamdulillah, the sicknesses are cured.

Together with this :

- Attend the talks of the learned Scholars of Islam whenever possible, or listen to recordings of their talks and read their books to gain benefit of pious, righteous company. Join and participate in the Deeni activities with those who follow the Qur`aan and Sunnah. On will, Insha-Allah, find a great improvement in one’s condition by keeping the right company.

- Make the effort to read Salaah punctually. Men should make every effort to read their Salaah in Jamaat.

- Read good, Islamic literature. Abstain from magazines or books that have filthy and indecent contents and pictures.

- Give up television viewing. …90% of the content is Haraam. If a person offers a full glass of clean and pure water, and mentions that there is just one drop of urine, would any sensible person, drink it ?

…Then when the major content of television is Haraam, what would we then say ? When the gaze, heart and mind are consuming and digesting so much of Haraam viewing, what else would be the end result except indulgence in the same Haraam.

- Lower the gaze from the opposite sex.

- Dress as a Muslim should – Wearing the pants above the ankle and keeping the beard, one fist in length must not be considered as insignificant actions. These are teachings of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa-Sallam) which he has emphasized. Although it is permissible to wear the shirt and pants, the dressing of the righteous (i.e. the kurta) has a speciality which benefits in different ways. A person with this appearance will think a hundred times before engaging in an open sin, when he is being recognized as someone who must be very pious. So this attire and appearance will offer a protection, Insha-Allah. Women too should dress modestly as is prescribed by Shariah.

- By doing these few things, you have won more than half the battle. And it is not as difficult as Shaytaan and nafs will whisper. A little courage, a little effort and a little sacrifice are all that is required.

Of course, these are just basic aspects of Deen, which everyone can implement immediately and easily. There is a need to fulfill the Obligatory Injunctions such as Salaah, Zakaat, Fasting in the month of Ramadaan, etc. and to fulfill the rights of family, neighbours and others. There is a need to read the Qur`aan Sharief regularly, together with some authentic commentary – a little at a time, as well as giving time to studying some book on Islamic Jurisprudence and reading the life and teachings of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa-Sallam), etc. A reading of the books of virtues of actions such as Salaah, Fasting, Haj, Sadaqaat, Zikr, etc. by Shaykh Zakariyyah Saheb (Rahmatullah ‘alayh) will create enthusiasm in the heart for action.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us His Love and the Love of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa-Sallam) , such that it becomes easy to give up all sins and submit to His Obedience. May He protect us all from the mischief of nafs and Shaytaan. May He fill our hearts with Love for this beautiful Deen and inspire us in being practical and good Muslims and be true role-models to our community.

Other prescriptions by Shaykh Yunus Patel (RA): "Giving up Haraam Fantasizing", "Giving up evil gazes"
Website : YunusPatel.co.za

[SinyugiN]

how old are you dear brother ?

[glagoliska]

if you understand urdu, listen Maulana Hakeem Akhtar's (DB),(Sheikh of Maulana Yunus Patel) speeches about badnazri

http://www.khanqah.org/audios/cat/32/spiritual-diseases

[gugqgbyzlp]

Learn more about this problem. It is very detrimental.
read http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-does...porn-look-like

Nothing but courage and will power can help you quit this bad habit.

[andreas]

how old are you dear brother ?

17, Thank you guys for posting this advice, I find my main problem to be the fact that sometimes I tell my self my prayers were not good enough or something, and if I do commit the act I will have a new resolve to try harder, this is not true, but sometimes my brain get's so desperate for it it makes me want to do it. Also I have been feeling very depressed duo to a lack of a hobby or so = /.

[SinyugiN]

don't think about it or thinking of 'trying too hard to quit'...just busy yourself with useful things and ask allah for guidance.

[andreas]

don't think about it or thinking of 'trying too hard to quit'...just busy yourself with useful things and ask allah for guidance.

Yeah but shaythan always whipsers in my ears, and it's very hard to stop. I keep on getting the urge to do it, it's very hard to get rid of these urges. So far I am 8-9 days clean but idk how long that will last...

[GogaMegaPiska]

try listening to this brother:

http://www.purifyyourgaze.com/

http://instantteleseminar.com/?eventID=23115234

[andreas]

don't think about it or thinking of 'trying too hard to quit'...just busy yourself with useful things and ask allah for guidance.

Yeah but I feel these days I have really lost my iman, and I strugle to keep up with my prayers. I went from 5 to like 2 or 1 prayers pair day, it's horrible I really don't know what to do, I feel at a all time low..

[vansVoish]

Dear AddictedBrother,

I just want to say that please use your willpower to get rid of this evil addiction. This is so evil that at times it doesn't go away even after marriage.

Let me tell you an incident. A fatwa came in our darul ifta once. A man had four wives but he was so addicted to masturbation that he couldn't control himself even after 4 wives. He was so fed up of it that one day he said, If i do it again then Talaq to all my wives. He couldn't control it and did it again. He was asking whether his wives got talaq or not.

[SinyugiN]

Yeah but I feel these days I have really lost my iman, and I strugle to keep up with my prayers. I went from 5 to like 2 or 1 prayers pair day, it's horrible I really don't know what to do, I feel at a all time low..

allah is there.
dont despair he forgives if you repent
he wont change your condition unless you make sincere effort
stop stressing too much and go hang out at lectures etc,. with scholars and dont think about the porn issue.

[Nfxutkpa]

Listen to Controlling One's Desires - Lowering the Gaze on the following page: http://www.islamicspirituality.org/lectures/general

Direct link: Controlling One's Desires - Lowering the Gaze