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Asslmlkm wrmtlhi wbrkth..

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Dear brothewrs
relations between my father & me is becoming bitter & bitter day by day though both side is showing calmness but
but when i try to do taleem from muntakhab he listens &
the next day he does from his books of masail by iqbal keelani(ghair muqallid)

i m really going no where
today he was reading ragarding the baselessness of taqleed & how people doesn't accept even true good things from ulemas other than their maslak(indirectly indicating my statement which i told few days b4 to my sis that the taleem should b done from the books of fazail)

As he use to do from bukhari ...
which also contains masails..

i reaaly want to get rid of this problem
i really need help .....
there r many materials on this site ...especially from colonel-hardstone.
but i need all those in urdu so that i can print & place it somewhere near my fathers cupboard.

i dont have courage to speek to my father.
whenever i tried to, i lost my temper & indeed attracted the wrath of Allah.

when ever i hear something against the ulema e haq/ dawat e haq i reaaly loos my temper ..

pls help me

[natahololll]

As-Salaamu alaykum wa-Rahmatullah

Make deep hearted dua to Allah Ta'ala for your father.

The following is an extract from the book "IKHLAAS" by Shaykh Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (RA). You can download it and read it from yunuspatel.co.za

A STORY TOLD

Allah Ta’ala cites the most perfect example, in the Qur`aan Sharief, of a son’s care, patience and dua for his very oppressive father. In Surah Maryam, Allah Ta’ala makes mention a very touching story in the life of His Khalil (friend), Hazrat Ibraheem (‘Alaihis Salaam) :



“AND MENTION IN THE BOOK (I.E. THE QUR`AAN SHARIEF) IBRAHEEM. VERILY HE WAS A MAN OF TRUTH, A PROPHET.”



WHEN HE SAID TO HIS FATHER : ‘O MY FATHER! WHY DO YOU WORSHIP THAT WHICH HEARS NOT, SEES NOT AND CANNOT AVAIL YOU IN ANYTHING?’



O MY FATHER! VERILY THERE HAS COME TO ME OF KNOWLEDGE THAT WHICH CAME NOT UNTO YOU. SO FOLLOW ME. I WILL GUIDE YOU TO A STRAIGHT PATH.



O MY FATHER! WORSHIP NOT SHAYTAAN. VERILY SHAYTAAN HAS BEEN A REBEL AGAINST THE MOST BENEFICENT (ALLAH).


O MY FATHER! VERILY I FEAR LEST A TORMENT FROM THE MOST BENEFICENT (ALLAH) OVERTAKE YOU, SO THAT YOU BECOME A COMPANION OF SHAYTAAN (IN JAHANNUM).


HE (THE FATHER) SAID : ‘DO YOU REJECT MY GODS, O IBRAHEEM? IF YOU STOP NOT (THIS), I WILL INDEED STONE YOU. SO GET AWAY FROM ME SAFELY BEFORE I PUNISH YOU.’

IBRAHEEM SAID : ‘PEACE BE ON YOU! I WILL ASK FORGIVENESS OF MY LORD FOR YOU. VERILY HE IS UNTO ME,
EVER MOST GRACIOUS.’”
[SURAH MARYAM 19 : 41-47]


…Despite the fact that his father was an idol-worshipper, associating partners to his beloved Allah Ta’ala, Hazrat Ibraheem (‘Alaihis Salaam) addressed him gently, with kind and affectionate words, sincerely advising and encouraging his father to the truth.

Added to such a hurtful rejection of his beloved Allah Ta’ala by none other than his own father, Hazrat Ibraheem (‘Alaihis Salaam) had to still contend with harshness, abuse and threats. Yet again, exemplary character surfaces, when Hazrat Ibraheem (‘Alaihis Salaam) departs with Salaam, overlooking the treatment that his father meted out to him and still making dua for him.

A point to be noted is that it is not permissible to make Dua of Maghfirat (Forgiveness) for Disbelievers. Hazrat Ibraheem’s (‘Alaihis Salaam) dua for his father was made prior to him being informed not to do so.

Nevertheless, Hazrat Ibraheem’s (‘Alaihis Salaam) story presents a beautiful and sufficient lesson in treating parents with kindness, even though they may be disbelievers, or they may be unjust, unfair and oppressive…

[st01en_lox]

why the today youth cant respect there father?

[iNYZgxNC]

wr wb,
You just need to tackle the situation with a lot of hikmah and dua's.
Nothing new in when your dad launches a tirade against the work and the ulema's.
The Ulema e Huqq definitely didn't break a sweat when they faced opposition while giving
daawah, they just did sabr and sabr and lots of dua's.

"Huq baat pehle kadwi hi lagti hai" - "The truth is always bitter" or something to that effect.
Just continue doing Ta'lim, you should know that you can't behave with him (regd. taqlid) in
the same way he is behaving with you - that'll only defeat the purpose.

there is a karguzaari I've heard over and over that I think may inspire you.
hazratjee inam ul hasan ra received a letter from the US from a guy who had newly spent time
in the path of Allah SWT, saying that he wanted to remove television from his home but is
facing lots of opposition from his wife, who even threatened that she'll walk out of the
marriage if he removed the television ( unhappy husband's take a hint ) ...hzjee ra
replied "whoever asked you to remove the television from your home?" just start doing Ta'lim
regularly, that's all and the guy did according to hzjee's instructions, in the beginning
his wife didn't even sit in ta'lim, didn't allow even their 2 children too, but the guy
continued doing ta'lim, it was only a matter of days or months when she made her kids sit in
ta'lim and as time went by, she too started to join, and then Alhamdulillah, one fine day
the man come home to find his tv set thrown in the dustbin, the poor guy enters thinking
whatever happened for this to happen in his home only to find his wife saying that we will
no longer have the devil in their home, the guy replied "fine, you no longer wanted the tv
but atleast we could have sold it for some money, what was the need to junk it?" she replied
saying that she didn't want to spread the fitnah to other homes (what a good lady).
I know at your house its not about the television but its totally different, all I suggest
is continue doing the ta'lim on a REGULAR basis with all the adab + dua's, but really don't
try correcting your dad.

[AdobebePhoto]

Assalamu alaykum

The basic problem is your respected father is wrongly biased against ulama-e-haq by someone who is near to him.
My suggestion is
1. Not to read the munthakab when he is around.
2. Don't trigger an argument from your side.
3. Show lot of sabr, don't loose your temper, whatever worse situation it may be. Think that it is not his fault, he is biased by wrong people, and those wrong people are at fault.

Think that "you are against me in love of sunnah and I am tolerating it in name of sunnah". Don't ever tell this to your father, just think.

[Mabeavyledlib]

youtube Molana Ilyas Ghuman and you get all the answers defending Ulama e haq. The Dalails (References) he gives are very strong and logical.
If there's any Deobandi voice against the Baatil that is being heard at the loudest ... then that is the voice of Maulana Ilyas Ghuman Sahab
May Allah give him long life and make things easy for him. Molana is currently in Haram Shareef

[AdobebePhoto]

youtube Molana Ilyas Ghuman and you get all the answers defending Ulama e haq. The Dalails (References) he gives are very strong and logical.
If there's any Deobandi voice against the Baatil that is being heard at the loudest ... then that is the voice of Maulana Ilyas Ghuman Sahab
May Allah give him long life and make things easy for him. Molana is currently in Haram Shareef

Assalamu alaykum

This is a different scenario. The son cannot DEBATE or ARGUE with his father.

[Staillateno]

why cant you use Riyadus Salaheen instead in such a situation......

[AdobebePhoto]

why cant you use Riyadus Salaheen instead in such a situation......

I was also thinking the same.

But the father looks to be more inclined "hate taqleed" subject. He may be thinking that is most important issue on this earth.