[Crazykz]

Asalamualaykum. Maaf. But i dont think its a good idea.. I don't exactly know why but Maybe because i come from a society and family in which the processing is done through parents,etc plus such info is and should be private not PUBLIC..
Personally I can never go for it!
MAAF, if i hit the wr0ng buttons.. I know many wil disagree, but i Hope you see my point..

>>wat does SRK mean????

You don't have to go for it, I don't think anyone will be forced to utilise this service.

The use of this service would not be mutually exclusive with permission from parents, on the contrary, it would be assumed that a person utilising this service has received permission from their parents. The issue here is that sometimes parents are unable to find the most appropriate spouse as well as countless other associated issues like feeling obliged to marry because the families are happy about the 'rishta' (proposal), irrespective of suitability. Also, as Al-Faruqi pointed out, it'd help out converts as well as i'm assuming divorcees and other people who would have trouble finding a spouse in our current social environment.

SRK = Shah Rukh Khan lol. As per the OP's requirements, you'd be most appropriate for this service.

[SpecialOFFER]

Having a fully shariah-compatible matrimonial site or forum would be highly complicated and always remember, if marrying through the net becomes too easy people will take marriage not too serious. Posts of a user tell almost NOTHING about his character, because it's easy to put on a fake gimmick online.

[StitsVobsaith]

Having a fully shariah-compatible matrimonial site or forum would be highly complicated and always remember, if marrying through the net becomes too easy people will take marriage not too serious. Posts of a user tell almost NOTHING about his character, because it's easy to put on a fake gimmick online.

I have reservations along those lines. It's a completely different ball-game online.

I have trust in many SF members but I know many online users apart from the SF community who may not be so trustworthy.

All the pros and cons should be considered along with guidance from Ulamaa.

[Repwailia]

Having a fully shariah-compatible matrimonial site or forum would be highly complicated and always remember, if marrying through the net becomes too easy people will take marriage not too serious. Posts of a user tell almost NOTHING about his character, because it's easy to put on a fake gimmick online.

OnlineRishta.pk is a fully shariah compliant matrimonial website it helps brothers to create their profiles, their sisters, their daughter or anyone and correspond through totally invisible mode untill they get satisfied with the initial information sharing and then they themselve share their contact numbers or contact info to have a physical interaction.

[LarpBulaBus]

Having a fully shariah-compatible matrimonial site or forum would be highly complicated and always remember, if marrying through the net becomes too easy people will take marriage not too serious. Posts of a user tell almost NOTHING about his character, because it's easy to put on a fake gimmick online.

@ True life: jazakumullahu khayr for voicing my opinion.
@ TN007:
you mentioned sharing of initial info ...just for your interest, i had just asked my Mufti Saheb Yesterday if Talking when the guy comes to see the girl is permissible..his reply was 'the boy can only see the girl for a moment..!'

Also, Colonel Saheb suggested exchange of Photos...:-/

[DraidodaRip]

lol
nice concept

[MasdMnPa]

@ True life: jazakumullahu khayr for voicing my opinion.
@ TN007:
you mentioned sharing of initial info ...just for your interest, i had just asked my Mufti Saheb Yesterday if Talking when the guy comes to see the girl is permissible..his reply was 'the boy can only see the girl for a moment..!'

Also, Colonel Saheb suggested exchange of Photos...:-/

im not too keen on the exchanging photos bit too.

In concept the idea is good but it should only be used to make enquiries and gathering basic info. when it comes to talking/meeting,that should be kept away from phone/email etc. Excchanging phone numbers,email addresses etc should be not allowed. The site should provide a system to gather a pretty comprehensive profiling system where most of the important infomation has been gathered. this could also include ones ideas of what they expect from a potential spouse like will the spouse let keep working working etc. so one puts everything down to make it clear the type of person they are looking for. If its a sister,she should say if she is working and whether she is expecting to carry on working after marriage and she could specify that as part of her criteria.

so in short,this could work really well but it all depends on the amount of information is put on the profile. if a system is in place so that any meetings arranged are based on genuine compatibility through the profile. of course it could be that they might not be attracted to each other but atleast the actual meeting is based on genuine compatibility.

[xtrudood]

@ AmatullahxXx

Converts do not have a family behind to help them finding someone.

Its not just about converts. If one lives in a close knit community than thats fine, because the aunties and grandmas usually pass around the rishtas. But living in some parts of the country, where there is a very small Muslim community, it is extremely difficult.

[alexbookhyip]

Discuss everyone

No need to discuss, start it... Make it ta'addud friendly please

[Adimonnna]

In my opinion a dedicated professional team needs to run it!

That's where you need funding.

[Adimonnna]

Br Colonel,

This is an off-topic request. Can you also open up a thread on the authentic Moonlighting news for the start of Ramadan 2011?

I will delete this post once you get the note.

[alenbarbaf]

I can start this in 1 day but thats not the problem.

In my opinion a dedicated professional team needs to run it! and thats the problem

Hmmm. ok. So lets make a list of professionals we will need for this 'Halal, Free, Matrimonial website' to materialize.

1. A Sheik and wife (as you mentioned here: http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...l=1#post643034 )
2. Web designers, etc etc.
3. Need funding for the website rent and maintenance.

This all thats coming up in my mind. Add more if required. Once we make a tentative list, we try to figure out how to get the team members. .

[StitsVobsaith]

Br Colonel,

This is an off-topic request. Can you also open up a thread on the authentic Moonlighting news for the start of Ramadan 2011?

I will delete this post once you get the note.

This covers the moonsighting for all of north america with the exception of alaska and hawaii.

http://hilalcommittee.org/

[VomsVomaMew]

Regardless which part of the world u live...To avoid chaos and fighting over 'Moonsighting' ...
it is a wise and peaceful idea to contact ur local mosques/islamic centers ....
for the 'confirmation' of 'moonsighting'!

[SDorothy28]

isnt there already a website like that? halfourdeen dot com?

[creewespock]

Assalamu aliakum,

Please start soon. Something is better than nothing.

[vNZsk39B]

Asalam Alykum wrwb

MashaAllah, a very good idea. May Allah SWT reward you for undertaking this mission.

It has become VERY difficult to find spouses, i am looking for my siblings and places where sunni muslims are minority, it becomes tough.

I think some one mentioned about old fashioned way of parents handling it. This site should allow parents to make a profile for their children. And parents can contact the potential spouse. Old fashion method is good too but works where you have your extended family.

This website for sure will benefit a lot of muslims. InshaAllah.

[Heliosprime]

@ True life: jazakumullahu khayr for voicing my opinion.
@ TN007:
you mentioned sharing of initial info ...just for your interest, i had just asked my Mufti Saheb Yesterday if Talking when the guy comes to see the girl is permissible..his reply was 'the boy can only see the girl for a moment..!'

Also, Colonel Saheb suggested exchange of Photos...:-/

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Salams,


That is exactly the problem, if br's and sr's are unable to see or talk to each other in a sufficient yet acceptable manner (with sr's wali present), why on earth do we expect them to be any better off after the meeting? If you can't talk in a free and open manner or see the person you want to marry (all necessary etiquette adhered to), don't be surprised if it ends up fruitless.

I know of people in the UK who got fed up of the long-winded, often embarrassing process towards marriage that they have actually taken to (unfortunately) living-with then marrying non-muslims partners. It was far simpler, no hassle and they could easily communicate with the person they were interested in. What they did was not right but occassionally people are driven to this. It was borne out of rejection for the current practice which may not be as robust as it was in the past. With family relations becoming more distant, it looks as though it will become more difficult in the future. Also, think of the proffessionals who work long ours and do not have the time or energy to go through such a long process of uncertainty and 'jumping-through-hoops' (as a friend put it to me).

Considering muslims are a minority in North America and Europe, a focus on getting people together should be encouraged rather than wielding more barriers in front of them. If we keep making it more difficult for them then it will only make the problem drag on. We need to help alleviate the current issues. One of the biggest ones seems to be matching like-minded muslims together for a meeting, be they practicing or not. Something nice and informal where they can get to know each other better with a wali present.

Of course, this all depends on peoples characters and how they approach it. If sr's (& br's) conform to such strict levels of modesty, that they are too embarrassed to forward their details (or atleast get a confidant to do it on their behalf) to a matrimonial service/contact person, the chances of marriage dwindle dramatically. How is a brother/sister supposed to know about you and your intentions etc? I imagine it must be even more difficult for bothers and sisters who pratice in communities where muslims are very small in number. How on earth would people know about you far and wide if you rely on just a small local 'pool' of muslims?

And if its problem now, what on earth will it be like in say 10-20 years when the current generation of young are at the same stage? Really appreciate the work and efforts of many here, particularly the Col. I personally believe communicating and networking to advance an informal meeting between two interested parties to marriage is highly commendable work in this day and age. What needs to be addressed is the incredible amount of modesty that is stopping a substantial number of otherwise very credible candidates to marriage from even taking the very first steps towards it. It could actually become counter-productive if not moderated.



Allah knows best

[jstizzle]

Asalam Alykum wrwb

MashaAllah, a very good idea. May Allah SWT reward you for undertaking this mission.

It has become VERY difficult to find spouses, i am looking for my siblings and places where sunni muslims are minority, it becomes tough.

I think some one mentioned about old fashioned way of parents handling it. This site should allow parents to make a profile for their children. And parents can contact the potential spouse. Old fashion method is good too but works where you have your extended family.

This website for sure will benefit a lot of muslims. InshaAllah.

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
I kinda like the suggestion that SF should run this! Coz then people cud judge their spouses character through their posts here!!

[vNZsk39B]

Assalaamoalaykum-w-w
I kinda like the suggestion that SF should run this! Coz then people cud judge their spouses character through their posts here!!

Wa alykum Asalam WrWb

Brother I didnt get your post. Is that an indication to me or my character?