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06-25-2011, 05:24 AM
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 Divorce amongst sahaba
 I hope everyone is in the best of imaan, I have a question that has been brewing for some time. Divorce is considered as one of the most hated halal acts but many of the sahaba (Abu Bakr, Umar, others, peace be upon them all) divorced one or more times (please correct me if I am wrong). Why would the greatest generation divorce so often when it is better to stay with your wife? I understand that their society was different than ours, and many times a divorced woman could easily marry again. |
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06-25-2011, 05:33 AM
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Wa alaykumussalaam,
Their society was different than ours. A point acknowledged by Mufti Yusuf Ludhianwi when he was asked a similar question. I hope the new generation can free themselves from the cultural stuff that their society brought. Too many times divorce is frowned upon while it is perfectly fine and legal to do so. Even Prophets divorced. |
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06-25-2011, 05:40 AM
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There is a context behind everything and i heard many stories about how the devil takes his throne in the dark sea in the night and ask his minions what they have done to impress him today, and the act that impresses the devil the most is the act of a man breaking ties with his wife, because its not only one family that will feel the effects but in many cases a small community may...
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06-25-2011, 06:04 AM
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Divorce is considered as one of the most hated halal acts  who considered it such? |
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06-25-2011, 07:00 AM
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Please forgive my ignorance as I heard it as a hadeeth. I searched it online and found... The hadeeth has a corroborating report from Mu’aadh ibn Jabal (may Allaah be pleased with him), which was narrated by al-Daaraqutni in al-Sunan (4/35) and Ibn ‘Adiy in al-Kaamil (2/694), with the wording: “Allaah has not permitted anything more hated to Him than divorce.” And there are other versions, but its isnaad is da’eef jiddan (very weak) and it is not valid to be quoted as evidence. But although it is most likely that the hadeeth cannot be soundly attributed to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), its meaning is sound. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: It is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most hated of permissible things to Allaah is divorce.” This hadeeth is not saheeh, but its meaning is sound: Allaah hates divorce, but He does not forbid it to His slaves, so as to make things easier for them. If there is a legitimate shar’i or regular reason for divorce, then it is permissible and depends on the likely outcome of keeping this woman as one's wife. If keeping her will lead to something that is contrary to sharee’ah which cannot be avoided except by divorcing her, such as if the woman is lacking in religious commitment or chastity, and the husband cannot set her straight, then in this case we say that it is better to divorce. But if there is no shar’i reason or ordinary reason, then it is better not to divorce, rather in that case divorce is makrooh. End quote. Liqaa’aat al-baab il-Maftooh, no. 55, question no. 3 |
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06-25-2011, 07:22 AM
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 bro for bringing the details. The hadeeth has a corroborating report from Mu’aadh ibn Jabal (may Allaah be pleased with him), which was narrated by al-Daaraqutni in al-Sunan (4/35) and Ibn ‘Adiy in al-Kaamil (2/694), with the wording: “Allaah has not permitted anything more hated to Him than divorce.” And there are other versions, but its isnaad is da’eef jiddan (very weak) and it is not valid to be quoted as evidence. Its clear that people shouldnt divorce without any serious reason and nothing in the shariah which are allowed, can be hated. may be detested or unloved is more suitble word to use in that case. As the hadith chain is very weak and and cant be used, so WAllahu alam, people should avoid using this statement and use another way of advice to keep the marriege strong and not giving divorce. our respected Ulama may put more clear understanding of the case inshallah to give us a wide understanding of the statement. Why would the greatest generation divorce so often when it is better to stay with your wife? . |
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06-26-2011, 07:51 AM
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Is the stigma associated with divorce amongst Asians a cultural thing then? I thought it was because divorce is seen as the most detested permissible act. Surprised to hear it was done by such great sahabas.
Is it valid, when considering an individual for marriage, and if that individual's parents are divorced - is it valid to see this as a 'negative'? Because this attitude does exist in many Muslim societies. |
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06-26-2011, 08:30 AM
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Is the stigma associated with divorce amongst Asians a cultural thing then? I thought it was because divorce is seen as the most detested permissible act. Surprised to hear it was done by such great sahabas. Some time ago a brother related me about some kind of stats calculated about the time of an Islamic dinasty of old (Umayyads?) showing very high rates of divorce amongs Muslims. Nowadays I think that in reaction to extremely disgregative models coming from the "west" we take refuge in the other extreme of the christian-of-old (in Europe/Americas) or cultural indian (in the subcontinent) model of the stable monogamous family remaing together from marriage to death. It seems to me that things were just "in the middle" between these two extremes. This takes us to the other problem of reacting to an alien model by taking refuge in its absolute opposite, even though also its opposite is as well alien as the former; we could see this in many issues. We really need a Mujaddid nowadays, purifying Muslims of all the filth taken from kufr ideologies and models, and also from the filth of some of its specular anti-filth... |
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