[Sthjrderfida]

is it good to give all time naseeha?i think it make other person stubborn

You know your situation better than anyone here. Give it in the best of ways when you feel it will not be annoying. But at the end of the day, you are responsible for yourself.

Which brings another point up: it's REALLY good nasiha to walk the walk in addition to talking the talk. If you consider your own actions and try to better your own self (continually) and live humbly and respectfully, people respond to that. When they see your kindness and politeness and the dignity which which you conduct yourself, they think "Wow, I want to be like that."

(Or they just fill with hatred and scorn, in which they have a serious disease of the heart.)

There was some poet who remarked that when he saw a muslim walking in the marketplace in Marrakesh (I think it was Marrakesh) he understood, just by the dignity of that one man, who Muslims were able to conquer so much so fast. When I imagine that nameless believer, I can't help but go "I want to be like that."

You misunderstood me bro, lol. I was mentioning it was 'considered' very religious by 'some people', Due to the decline in the quality of 'frame of reference' in the Society. I hope get my point.

I wasn't attacking you. I was more commenting on the view of "some people"

[Saispapedlimi]

I wasn't attacking you. I was more commenting on the view of "some people"

Oh ok. lol.


@Binte azam
Also when correcting your brother try not to directly accuse his wrong doings. Instead focus more on enlightening him more about Islam. Try to make him understand about Death, and Akhirah.

[9mm_fan]

Salam alikum

If you will try to be extreme perfect muslim it will lead you to not look extreme to others, I think. Actually extreme good muslims have open and sof heart.. what do you think.

[Enjoymms]

@Binte azam
Also when correcting your brother try not to directly accuse his wrong doings. Instead focus more on enlightening him more about Islam. Try to make him understand about Death, and Akhirah.

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[Enjoymms]

Salam alikum

If you will try to be extreme perfect muslim it will lead you to not look extreme to others, I think. Actually extreme good muslims have open and sof heart.. what do you think.

i believe to be extreme with yourself is good but not with others it make other person uncomfortable ...

[Saispapedlimi]

Its better not to go into the details about your family's actions, so that you won't fall into backbiting. I can understand your situation. Family members fighting is a very emotionally traumatic experience. Sister you will have to be very patient. First make Dua to Allah. Then Do whatever you can to maintain peace. Be patient.
May Allah give peace and Taqwa for your family. Ameen.

[9mm_fan]

i believe to be extreme with yourself is good but not with others it make other person uncomfortable ...

Yes, actually this was what I was thinking. Recently there was nice thread about danger of likness to show off for example.
And also if someone goes extremely to islam, we must hope allah help him or her to see many hadith about behavoir to others muslims and non-muslims

w salam

[Enjoymms]

Its better not to go into the details about your family's actions, so that you won't fall into backbiting. I can understand your situation. Family members fighting is a very emotionally traumatic experience. Sister you will have to be very patient. First make Dua to Allah. Then Do whatever you can to maintain peace. Be patient.
May Allah give peace and Taqwa for your family. Ameen.

jazakallah brother

[Stoniaanapy]

be EXTREMELY BALANCED.. thats the best extremist

[9mm_fan]

be EXTREMELY BALANCED.. thats the best extremist

yeah , so simple and so difficult

w salam

[valiumcheepval]

be EXTREMELY BALANCED.. thats the best extremist

Yes. Keep a chip on both shoulders.

[OQmYckYz]

No.

Islam is about being balance and moderate.

[Enjoymms]

You know your situation better than anyone here. Give it in the best of ways when you feel it will not be annoying. But at the end of the day, you are responsible for yourself.

Which brings another point up: it's REALLY good nasiha to walk the walk in addition to talking the talk. If you consider your own actions and try to better your own self (continually) and live humbly and respectfully, people respond to that. When they see your kindness and politeness and the dignity which which you conduct yourself, they think "Wow, I want to be like that."

(Or they just fill with hatred and scorn, in which they have a serious disease of the heart.)

There was some poet who remarked that when he saw a muslim walking in the marketplace in Marrakesh (I think it was Marrakesh) he understood, just by the dignity of that one man, who Muslims were able to conquer so much so fast. When I imagine that nameless believer, I can't help but go "I want to be like that."




I wasn't attacking you. I was more commenting on the view of "some people"

jazakallah brother i saw your post today

[phpfoxmods]

Never. Islam is a way of balance. RasulUllah S.A.W. talked about the man who stayed at the masjid all day and night and the man who provided for that person who did that zhikr and stated that the man who paid the expenses and upkeep of the guy making zhikr was essentially more closer to Allah.