[CiccoineFed]

aslam o alikum
i m getting rude and harsh day by day even somtime with my teachers when they asked irrelevent Q even i dnt want to be and when i spoke my words then i feel it ......and same as i m not practising deen as i was be4 sometime i think i shld die coz i dnt want to be disobedient to any1...... and i m like now a days far far away for deen i try to read or listen islamic books and bayans bt it does no affect on me can any body help me regarding this how shld i control myself i really need some good advise

[Menierofe]

please visit start with the self thread (the sticky one at the top) or visit http://www.only-faith.com/articles/start-with-the-self for easier access. inshaAllah.

May Allah help you. Ameen

[Alexunda]

aslam o alikum
i m getting rude and harsh day by day even somtime with my teachers when they asked irrelevent Q even i dnt want to be and when i spoke my words then i feel it ......and same as i m not practising deen as i was be4 sometime i think i shld die coz i dnt want to be disobedient to any1...... and i m like now a days far far away for deen i try to read or listen islamic books and bayans bt it does no affect on me can any body help me regarding this how shld i control myself i really need some good advise

Asalam Alykum Sister,

Its normal, there are ups and downs in deen. Without the downs, one cant appreciate the ups. Similarily, without sickness, we cant appreciate health.

Know that, its a test from Allah SWT. If you keep your deeni duties in check in this state, you get rewarded tremendously.

Make sure of the following:

1 - stay away from sinning
2 - Do not miss the prayers

Sister, to be honest; this is an excellent time to get closer to Allah SWT. Pray Salatul Hajaat, get up an hour before Fajr and pray Tahajud. Its all down to your intention. Make a strong intention, be firm in what you do, if you fall down. Its ok, get up again and start over. If you still fall again, get up and start over.

Contact a Shaykh and ask his advice on what to do. I pray that you come out of this state. Ameen.

Wasalam

[lorryuncori]

aslam o alikum
i m getting rude and harsh day by day even somtime with my teachers when they asked irrelevent Q even i dnt want to be and when i spoke my words then i feel it ......and same as i m not practising deen as i was be4 sometime i think i shld die coz i dnt want to be disobedient to any1...... and i m like now a days far far away for deen i try to read or listen islamic books and bayans bt it does no affect on me can any body help me regarding this how shld i control myself i really need some good advise

Make lots of taubah and dua. Ask Allah to soften your heart and repent for your shortcomings. We all go through times where nothing effects us and our hearts harden, the worst thing for me to do at that time is get into a tizzy about it....rather i just take a step back, relax, continue with my normal ibadah and increase the duas and taubah...it helps to always keep in mind this...

I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assemble better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.

We can only do our best i guess and then its all down to His Mercy. May Allah make you one of His closest friends and give me the same. ameen.

[Kragh]

Imagine yourself in the shoes of the person you are talking to. Would you like it if someone was harsh and rude to you? Treat others as you would want to be treated.

As for what you are describing about your how you're feeling regarding Deen, this is what is called Qabdh and Bast. It's normal in every Muslims life where at certain times they feel incredibly close to Allah Ta'aala and want to make extra ibaadat, and yet at other times everything seems to be a standstill. What you have to make sure no matter what is that you continue following the ahkaam of Allah no matter what you feel. Even if you do not feel any spirituality in your salaah, even if you cannot cry while making duaa, even if you do not feel anything while reading Qur'aan, still persist! Allah Ta'aala is so Merciful, He loves even this, that His slave is persisting in following His commands even if he is feeling spiritually low.

Wishing and thinking it'd be better if you were dead is a defeatist attitude. Allah Ta'aala gave us life on this Earth for one purpose: to worship Him. So everything we do must be governed by what He wishes. The temptations and tests that come to us is what will raise our ranks in His eyes. Remember the situations Rasulullah and the Sahaba faced. These are not just stories for us, but lesson to learn. We must persevere and always know that whatever trial we are going through could have been much worse. This is called Tafweez, resigning to the will of Allah. (Click my sig pic for more on Tafweez)

There's more I can say, however my words are a jaahilah's words. Please listen to this talk by Moulana Yunus Patel saheb.

http://yunuspatel.net/Audio/2007/spe...08-06-2007.mp3

Alternatively, you can read the book that is a transcription of the talk (although I read the book first, I loved the talk even more)

http://yunuspatel.co.za/downloads/Fe...ituallyLow.pdf

[AK47rulz]

aslam o alikum
i m getting rude and harsh day by day even somtime with my teachers when they asked irrelevent Q even i dnt want to be and when i spoke my words then i feel it ......and same as i m not practising deen as i was be4 sometime i think i shld die coz i dnt want to be disobedient to any1...... and i m like now a days far far away for deen i try to read or listen islamic books and bayans bt it does no affect on me can any body help me regarding this how shld i control myself i really need some good advise

Wa'laykum salam sister. Just 3 things:
1) Make tons of dua' and cry as much as you can while imploring Allah, like a child cries while imploring his mother.
2) Ask forgiveness from everyone who you are rude to. Don't hesitate. Seek forgiveness from whoever it is at the drop of a hat.
3) Make sure you don't miss your fard prayers.
May Allah turn in mercy towards you. WS.

[clubcughSheet]

2) Ask forgiveness from everyone who you are rude to. Don't hesitate.

asking for forgiveness from others was/is the thing which helped me a lot to be humble. otherwise i didnt know what humbleness means at all. It totally destroys the pride and arrogant virus which is present in a person.

[smazibummigue]

im the same sometimes with my friends, teachers and parents !
it just happens, then before i sleep i think "what the hell"

but honestly, the cure which i found to this was that praying regular, and increasing my ibadah
its made me a better person... it just happens by itself !
you might read this and think "your just saying that because its a muslim forum" (or something of the sort)
but honestly, increasing your ibadah does help

oh ! and sometimes after youv spoken your words. maybe later on just say sorry and explain why you said such things. or just say you dont know why you said such things. i feel this helps after knowing the other person is okay with it

[CiccoineFed]

jazakALLAH every 1 i try to follow ur advises inshALLAH and i 4get to write 1 more thing whenever somthing happen instead of think positively 1st thought tht hit me is negitive ahh!i wasnt like tht be4 ...

[Ornamiviant]

jazakALLAH every 1 i try to follow ur advises inshALLAH and i 4get to write 1 more thing whenever somthing happen instead of think positively 1st thought tht hit me is negitive ahh!i wasnt like tht be4 ...

http://islam-inlife.com/?p=696

[Kragh]

jazakALLAH every 1 i try to follow ur advises inshALLAH and i 4get to write 1 more thing whenever somthing happen instead of think positively 1st thought tht hit me is negitive ahh!i wasnt like tht be4 ...

This is where Tafweez comes into play. It not something that you can turn on overnight. You have to struggle at the beginning, but if you continue then it will become easier.

I urge you to read the book Tafweez and try to apply it in your life, because I promise you, it will bring lots of peace in your life.

[Ornamiviant]

This is where Tafweez comes into play. It not something that you can turn on overnight. You have to struggle at the beginning, but if you continue then it will become easier.

I urge you to read the book Tafweez and try to apply it in your life, because I promise you, it will bring lots of peace in your life.

It's true, and this slave also refers Don't Be Sad (translation of La-Tahzan) another authentic book by Shaykh Aai'd Ibne Abdullah Al Qarni. Both the books, Tafweez and Don't be Sad are available here by the Grace of Allah Taala:
http://www.4shared.com/dir/YGHvRX7z/English.html

[CiccoineFed]

aslam o alikum
i started reading tafweez
jazakALLAH

[CiccoineFed]

jazakALLAH every 1 for ur kind help it help me alot may ALLAH REWARD U all ameen

[TainuibeFaimb]

Don't worry sis, All of us go through this phase. As everyone already mentioned stick to 3 things:
1) Salah
2) Quran
3) Dikr

Recite Fathiha, Ikhlas, Falaq and Nas frequently. Do NOT underestimate the power of it. They are specific to the troubles of Shaytan. Also byheart Ayatul Khursi its very very very useful. And frequent any one Dikr everyday.(eg: Subhan Allaahi Wa bihamdihi). Also make a lot of Dua. Only Allah can guide us.

'There is nothing mightier in the Scales than Good Manners in the Day of Resurrection.'
There is a specific Dua for Good Manners:

[CiccoineFed]

Don't worry sis, All of us go through this phase. As everyone already mentioned stick to 3 things:
1) Salah
2) Quran
3) Dikr

Recite Fathiha, Ikhlas, Falaq and Nas frequently. Do NOT underestimate the power of it. They are specific to the troubles of Shaytan. Also byheart Ayatul Khursi its very very very useful. And frequent any one Dikr everyday.(eg: Subhan Allaahi Wa bihamdihi). Also make a lot of Dua. Only Allah can guide us.

'There is nothing mightier in the Scales than Good Manners in the Day of Resurrection.'
There is a specific Dua for Good Manners:

jazakALLAH Brother i will strt reciting this dua inshaALLAH frm 2day