[gooseCile]

Monday, Sept. 19. Wt: 262.2 Loss: .8 , Total loss: 10.1 pounds!!!!!!! in 10 days!!!!!

If no one else will celebrate this loss, I Will!!!!

I got “outed” last night at a friend's birthday party. I asked the hostess to hold out some salad before dressing it with wonderful, oily, salty blu cheese dressing. She asked why, I remarked that I was just trying to watch what I was eating, and another friend who knew I was on a diet (did not know which, and I had told her I did not want everyone knowing) chimed in with my bing on a diet and doing good.

This lead to a conversation about the diet. I said I had lost almost 10 pounds in 9 days. My sil asked if I was walking daily, I said no, it was not encouraged at this time. the hostess asked if I was doing hCG. I said yes, she asked if I was doing it at the clinic. I said no, I could not afford that and that I was using hhCG and that was one of the packages delivered to my sil's house. This lead to a brief discussion about why I was not loosing 2 pounds a day (advertising hype), the struggle I have had keeping my caloric intake down because of the original drops I had been taking, and how someone else had tried it (did not sound successful). I tried to explain the program, and was essentially cut of. In sum, I did not feel supported at all. Rather, I felt like, because I was not loosing 2 pounds a day, no one believed I was serious and that I was not successful.

This is why I did not want to come out of the hCG closet with my family. They judge me so terribly because of my weight....I know I am an embarrassment to them (at least to my sil), and if this does not work (God forbid), it will only underscore how much of a lazy, fat, slob I really am (in their minds)

I felt like what I had done, my decision, my struggle, my hopes were discounted and minimized. The hostess did gastric bypass several years ago, lost 100+ pounds, had encouraged me to do it (I don't want it and cannot afford it), and is pretty smug about her size 4 body although she has no shape at all and looks like a deflated balloon. While she has had a face lift, her skin hangs on her arms and legs. I can only imagine what her belly looks like. My sil walks almost every day and is on and off diets all the time (she is petite and and even 10 pounds extra is obvious). Both of these women are highly critical when it comes to weight (both are in the retail fashion industry) and I don't want to feel like they are watching me. Because they will watch me for signs of failure rather than signs of success.

Me, fat all my life. Struggled with weight since high school when I started doing amphetamine diet pills and the grapefruit diet (at the same time had an ulcer and was supposed to be on a bland diet). I dieted on an off through my 20's and 30's, finally deciding to just eat healthy foods and limit sweets and other stuff. My weight stayed stable until I entered surgical menopause at 42, then the weight began to creep on until I had gained 25 pounds to my pre-hCG weight.

Now, I am loosing again with hope that I can reset my metabolism so I can keep the weight off for the rest of my life. I know I will have to be true to program and will not be able to go back to unrestricted eating. I will be able to enjoy the occasional treat, such as a small slice of birthday cake (which I did not have last night, thank you very much!) But, once I am at goal, I will enter maintainence and keep daily watch on my weight to ensure creep does not happen.

But it is my choice, my struggle, and I am trying to reach out to people who can be supportive in a POSITIVE way. People who will celebrate my struggles and successes without questioning why I am not doing better. I know why I am not doing better, I can be my own worst critic. I don't need help in being critical, particularly from people who have not done hCG successfully. I will reach out to hCG vets when I need help in being more successful.

I need people to remind me of what I am doing right, that I am successful every day I loose weight, and if I stall, that I am successful for keeping with the program. I need people to help cheer the fact that the scale moved down another .2 pounds, not disqulify that success because it was not 2 pounds. I am choosing who I share my journey with, and choosing people who can be positive.

That is why I am sharing this story with you now. Being fat is hard, and dieting is hard. True support makes the dieting easier and being fat harder. If you need support, you can ask for it from me. I will not judge you, I will celebrate your successes, and I will try to boost your attitude. I can do this, we can do this.

[joanbertis]

DO NOT LET OTHERS DICTATE YOUR HAPPINESS! You only have one person to be accountable to and that is YOU! You are worth the effort and they are only trying to keep you down because it keeps them up in their minds. You don't have anything to prove to anyone but you! 10 lbs in 10 days is awesome!!! Don't let anyone tell you any different.

You hang in there and you prove to yourself that you are worth the struggle and sacrifice!

Monday, Sept. 19. Wt: 262.2 Loss: .8 , Total loss: 10.1 pounds!!!!!!! in 10 days!!!!!

If no one else will celebrate this loss, I Will!!!!

I got “outed” last night at a friend's birthday party. I asked the hostess to hold out some salad before dressing it with wonderful, oily, salty blu cheese dressing. She asked why, I remarked that I was just trying to watch what I was eating, and another friend who knew I was on a diet (did not know which, and I had told her I did not want everyone knowing) chimed in with my bing on a diet and doing good.

This lead to a conversation about the diet. I said I had lost almost 10 pounds in 9 days. My sil asked if I was walking daily, I said no, it was not encouraged at this time. the hostess asked if I was doing hCG. I said yes, she asked if I was doing it at the clinic. I said no, I could not afford that and that I was using hhCG and that was one of the packages delivered to my sil's house. This lead to a brief discussion about why I was not loosing 2 pounds a day (advertising hype), the struggle I have had keeping my caloric intake down because of the original drops I had been taking, and how someone else had tried it (did not sound successful). I tried to explain the program, and was essentially cut of. In sum, I did not feel supported at all. Rather, I felt like, because I was not loosing 2 pounds a day, no one believed I was serious and that I was not successful.

This is why I did not want to come out of the hCG closet with my family. They judge me so terribly because of my weight....I know I am an embarrassment to them (at least to my sil), and if this does not work (God forbid), it will only underscore how much of a lazy, fat, slob I really am (in their minds)

I felt like what I had done, my decision, my struggle, my hopes were discounted and minimized. The hostess did gastric bypass several years ago, lost 100+ pounds, had encouraged me to do it (I don't want it and cannot afford it), and is pretty smug about her size 4 body although she has no shape at all and looks like a deflated balloon. While she has had a face lift, her skin hangs on her arms and legs. I can only imagine what her belly looks like. My sil walks almost every day and is on and off diets all the time (she is petite and and even 10 pounds extra is obvious). Both of these women are highly critical when it comes to weight (both are in the retail fashion industry) and I don't want to feel like they are watching me. Because they will watch me for signs of failure rather than signs of success.

Me, fat all my life. Struggled with weight since high school when I started doing amphetamine diet pills and the grapefruit diet (at the same time had an ulcer and was supposed to be on a bland diet). I dieted on an off through my 20's and 30's, finally deciding to just eat healthy foods and limit sweets and other stuff. My weight stayed stable until I entered surgical menopause at 42, then the weight began to creep on until I had gained 25 pounds to my pre-hCG weight.

Now, I am loosing again with hope that I can reset my metabolism so I can keep the weight off for the rest of my life. I know I will have to be true to program and will not be able to go back to unrestricted eating. I will be able to enjoy the occasional treat, such as a small slice of birthday cake (which I did not have last night, thank you very much!) But, once I am at goal, I will enter maintainence and keep daily watch on my weight to ensure creep does not happen.

But it is my choice, my struggle, and I am trying to reach out to people who can be supportive in a POSITIVE way. People who will celebrate my struggles and successes without questioning why I am not doing better. I know why I am not doing better, I can be my own worst critic. I don't need help in being critical, particularly from people who have not done hCG successfully. I will reach out to hCG vets when I need help in being more successful.

I need people to remind me of what I am doing right, that I am successful every day I loose weight, and if I stall, that I am successful for keeping with the program. I need people to help cheer the fact that the scale moved down another .2 pounds, not disqulify that success because it was not 2 pounds. I am choosing who I share my journey with, and choosing people who can be positive.

That is why I am sharing this story with you now. Being fat is hard, and dieting is hard. True support makes the dieting easier and being fat harder. If you need support, you can ask for it from me. I will not judge you, I will celebrate your successes, and I will try to boost your attitude. I can do this, we can do this.

[gZAhTyWY]

I got flack for months from some, and kept most people in the dark about it for that reason, too. Once you are down and stay down, people will be amazed and so happy for you. This is your journey, not theirs. Who could be whining about 10 lbs in as many days? Really? How's that working for ya with your daily walking? How's that working for ya with your "I can't eat more than a spoonful at a time without vomiting?"

By far the best thing I have done for my body is this weightloss program. Thousands here will be in agreement. 2 lbs a day? that's not even an average for the highly successful people on this diet (maybe a teensy percentage! Like .005%)

I figured out last night that in 6 months and 2 weeks, having lost 80 lbs, that I was really only dieting for about 15 weeks total. *snicker snicker* Tell them to put that in their gastric bypass and smoke it. You can do it! You are in the right place, here on this forum. That is for sure!!!

[sauppyshurb]

Thanks for posting this! I too am keeping it undercover except from my hubby - and I am afraid of once again failing mostly but I need to remind myself that yes this is MY JOURNEY and I am the only one that can judge me not anyone else.

[triarmarm]

There are a million reasons to fail, and only one reason to succeed (because you are worth it)... luckily the million reason reasons to fail don't matter, but you do.

OK I am going to just say what I am thinking... stop looking to these people for approval and look within yourself and what you want and what makes you really happy. Stop defending yourself and your decisions. Your success will speak volumes to these naysayers. I would also make it a point not to share a meal with these ladies until you are at least in P3, when your diet is less restricted and you no longer feel the need to seek their approval or support for what you have decided to do... plus by the time you reach P3, there will be plentiful evidence of your success and your confidence will have grown. If anyone in this group comments positively about your weight loss, simply say thanks and move on to another subject, if they are negative or ridiculing, then excuse yourself from their company. I would make it clear should this subject ever come up again, that no matter what decisions these ladies have made regarding their own health and weight loss you may not have agreed with them. However you respected those choices and tried to support them, and you expect at least that much in return from them. They don't have to like your weight loss plan, but they should at least try to support you as you work through this process.
Living well and looking well is truly the best revenge. You also need to realize the moment you lose weight and become "an equal" to them, the playing field is level and they can no longer make themselves feel superior at your expense... plus all eyes will be on you and you will get the attention... ahhh insecure people can be so pathetic.

[blenIgnigeSef]

I know why I am not doing better, You aren't doing better, you're doing FAN-FREAKIN-TASTIC girlfriend! We all start somewhere, and most of us have *those* persons in our life who will just never get it. But that's OK, they aren't driving this bus. You are doing great, reach out for support where you know your hands won't get slapped. And thanks for the offer to support as well, we all have those days when we just need that little boost to get through it.

[fiettariaps]

It sounds like they're ignorant to be honest, and they want to keep you down. I agree with the other comments, I wouldn't hang out with these ladies until P3. Even then I would question their ability to support you. You're doing awesome, keep it up and do your thing. You know what you're doing, you're seeing the results, it's making YOU happier, so don't beat yourself up. Personally, my biggest supporter has been my husband, sometimes all I want is for someone to listen, not ridicule/judge/find a solution.

You won't fail, you'll be okay. Even if you have set backs/stalls, keep pushing through P2.

[MAKEMONEY]

I just wanted to give you my support Hope.

Looks like we are about the same weight and starting around the same time too.

I understand your unwillingness to share. Don't let those people rob you of your achievement. 10lbs in a small goal! If we were at WW we would get ribbons!! We need some ribbons around here!!

Those women are ignorant and catty. Most ARE! They are judging you to make themselves feel better about their appearance. Well, that's my opinion.

Keep up the hard work. Let us know how you are doing!

[OEMCHEAPSOFTDOWNLOAD]

You are completely right to celebrate those 10 pounds, and your friends should be more supportive, even if it was 2 pounds in 20 days. Its hard to get ppl to support you when you've been struggling with weight issues for years... so I understand why you felt the need for secrecy.

I'm glad you shared your story, and I'm also glad I found this forum, because I as well was feeling a little bit discouraged because I wasn't losing the 2lbs per day, I started at 254, and this is my 14th day and I'm down to 239, and freaking ecstatic. Every pound is an encouragement to continue, and I wish you all the best, don't give up.

[Alex]

Great Job for you! I am very proud of you! You are going to be my new inspiration! I don't get any support here at home and have been subject to many cheats and weight gain. thanks to you I am now going to put my foot down and stand up for myself! THANK you and i wish you the best!

[Qwjyrgij]

One thing that I always keep in mind, is that others opinion of me, doesn't define me, it defines them. You are doing awesome! Don't let the opinion of others derail you, you are worth more than that!

[vipdumpp]

Don't let other people get you down! I just started HCG 8 days ago and I've lost 7 pounds so far. I am still in college, so there are temptations EVERYWHERE! Over the weekend, my roommate had one of her friends come over. They were having this lavish dinner and asked me to join, I said no, sorry, I couldn't and my roommate goes "oh thats right you're on that diet." The girl who was over as a guest goes, "let me tell you, that diet won't work. Nothing will except for exercise and watching what you eat. Trust me I know what I'm talking about, I lost 100 pounds. Your diet won't work no matter what you do." This from the same girl who lost over 100 pounds two years ago and has gained it ALL back. I was in a really horrid mood at that time and almost blurted out, "I'm sorry, didn't you used to be skinny?" She went on ranting about how I would fail until I left the room. This is the second time I have met this girl, by the way.
On the next night, I was invited to a party at a sushi place. They have this all you can eat sushi special on Sunday nights and it was somewhat hard for me to watch everyone else eat my fave sushi as I munched on cucumbers. People kept questioning why I wasn't eating and more than several times, I had someone tell me that any diet I was on wasn't going to work, that I should have a cheat day,etc. It's like I couldn't win!

I realized that by being in these situations and not giving into temptation and not listening to these people who have negative comments has helped me. I now feel like I want to prove to them that I can be skinny! It's not about what I do to get there, it's about the fact that eventually I will be there.

Hope some of this was able to help you! Keep on with your journey, you can do it!

[amannddo]

weight is a sticky issue for almost everyone- and often it's hard for people to see you lose, if they're not. try to ignore any negativity, if you can.

when i lost 10#, i didn't even get 1/2 an eyebrow of reaction. when i lost 20, i got a smile and a nod. when i lost 30 they said, "good for you". when i lost 40 they said, "what is it that you're taking?". when i lost 50, they said, "can you order some of that for me?". let your results speak for you.

[GrileVege]

Thanks for posting this experience and I hope that venting helped you feel at least a little bit better. I too have only disclosed to a handful of people as I don't want to hear all of the questions, jokes or looks. This forum can be your friends and supporters while on this journey. Women are the worst at trying to feel better about themselves by putting others down-it's terrible. Just think how they will feel when you are the hottest one in the room! You'll have the last laugh! But seriously, avoid putting yourself in those situations and limit socializing with toxic people as much as possible. Surround yourself with those that bring you up, not down! You're worth it!

[marketheal]

Thanks for posting this experience and I hope that venting helped you feel at least a little bit better. I too have only disclosed to a handful of people as I don't want to hear all of the questions, jokes or looks. This forum can be your friends and supporters while on this journey. Women are the worst at trying to feel better about themselves by putting others down-it's terrible. Just think how they will feel when you are the hottest one in the room! You'll have the last laugh! But seriously, avoid putting yourself in those situations and limit socializing with toxic people as much as possible. Surround yourself with those that bring you up, not down! You're worth it!

Oh honey, it's stories like yours that saddens me; our worst enemy sometimes is not ourselves, but rather those around us! Like those that posted before me, it is absolutely important that 'you do you!'

Since my losing the weight I sense the attitude changes (and not in a good way) of other heavier woman around me. They will stop talking to you, you will catch the catty glares, and the sideways comments. You will know it's nothing other than jealousy, afterall we are the same person, just smaller and healthier.

Just remember you sure can't please everybody --only yourself!

[FredderiK]

when i lost 10#, i didn't even get 1/2 an eyebrow of reaction. when i lost 20, i got a smile and a nod. when i lost 30 they said, "good for you". when i lost 40 they said, "what is it that you're taking?". when i lost 50, they said, "can you order some of that for me?". let your results speak for you. I love this!

I actually had someone have the gall to say, rather snidely, that any diet that has you sippin' baby mama pee was bound to put you in the toilet! I lost weight, and she's still trying. lol

[Brareevor]

I'm proud of you. I understand the non family support. My first 20 pounds nobody even seemed to notice. it was shocking to me to lose so much weight and have nobody notice. Very discouraging. When my family found out I was doing this diet, they were very negative about it and wanted to talk me out of it. They showed me all they could to point out how bad this diet was, and how it wouldn't work, or wouldn't have lasting results. I had zero support from my husband too. He continued to want huge meals and ate all the good fattening foods right next to me. It was tough. But after my second round and another 20 pounds, I finally got noticed, and for the most part my family backed off their negative position. However, saying this, i still have a ton to lose, and am now starting my 4th round, and for some reason I'm getting mixed support for this. It would be nice to have someone do it with me, but no one is, and no one wants to talk about it, either.
10 pounds is awesome. Just remember, you're doing this for you, not anyone else. Ignore your sil. and just do what you need to do to feel better. They have their bodies, not yours, so they shouldn't say anything about yours. sigh. but they're family, and that's what they do.
not sure what I'm trying to say here. I just want you to know that you're not alone. I've been fat my whole life, and I'm working to change that. After cycle 3 I finally hit below the 200 mark, and have kept off the weight in between cycles. Now I'm going for another cycle to lose more. I'm loving the results. Little by little things change.
You can do it! You're wonderful.

[CurtisTH]

After reading the last post, I had a curious thought pop in my head!

Why is it when someone announces they are having liposuction and/or a gastric bypass, the reaction is more positive than it is with the HCG Diet and folks want to step forward and offer support and well wishes? I mean you mention you are doing HCG, or even the mere thought of considering it, and people's heads start to spin and they look at you like you are a freak!! Kinda sad.

[Czrzftmz]

Yeah, I dunno why that is. However, you can say that you are reducing calories using a whole foods Primal type of thing and you would be telling the 100% truth. It *sounds* healthier and most people accept it very well. I've used that a few times when invited somewhere for lunch or dinner. No one is going to argue with the "whole foods" plan, it's healthy and it was the original diet of mankind.

[Agitoligflise]

Keep up the great work! I tried to not really tell anyone until I lost 20+ pounds. AND I only told my husband and cousin who lives near me. It was my cousin who told her mom (which I asked her not to) and then my aunt told my mom. Luckily my mom is all about me getting skinny so she didn't have anything negative to say to me about it. I did hear a lot from people acting like I need to eat more, how the diet can't be good for me, and such like that. I try not to tell anyone my weight loss or what diet I'm on. If anyone comments about me losing weight or asks me if I'm losing weight I just reply, "I'm working on it" and then I change the subject. Most get the hint that I really don't want to talk about it.

I would just not really mention it to them. It's none of their business. And 10 pounds is a great deal in 9 days. Can't really think of any other diet doing that for a person.