[DrCeshing]

understanding

no one need ever give up on their dreams, whether they are 22 or 62. you are the author of your own life. you have to make things happen. no one is going to do that for you. you can ask for guidance from your higher self but ultimately it is you that needs to make things happen.

perhaps it is a good idea to "get a job". there is nothing wrong with being an "average joe", or as john lennon calls it: "a working class hero". this does not mean you have to give up your dreams. if you worked and persued your dreams, perhaps it might ease your depression.

i have found that since i have awakened i have had a lot of issues to deal with, more so than ever before. however, this is how we learn and grow and deal with the catalyst that comes our way. if we didn't have it, we wouldn't grow. it is often now easy, but worth the time and trouble it takes to overcome these difficulties in our lives. you are not alone. the times are changing very quickly as we move toward 2012. don't give up. keep asking for guidance from your higher self and realize that you will only be guided, you need to figure things out for yourself. look deep within yourself for the answers and, remember, never give up on your dreams.

[usacomm]

shamanangel...

don't feel guilty sweet heart. you don't have, and shouldn't have any control over anyone else's actions and battles. you are in the best position to influence your family the most. the best way to influence people you love is just by example. by you enjoying your life in such a positive, service-to-others fashion, and simply loving and supporting them, is the best way to get the people around you going in the same direction. keep nurturing and nourishing yourself with your new life and radiate a loving, nonjudgmental attitude and once they have sorted out their shadow work they will have a great example to follow towards the light. keep your head up. love the dc community and all of you!

[MontyP@thon]

hello all ...

i'm very new to posting on this kind of sight ... but thought that others may bring some insight to my situation...

i've been exposed to the new aged ideas almost all my life my dad had started studying many topics when i was about 8 ...at which time i embraced them fully ... even taking a spiritual meditation class for kids when i was about 12 13 ...

my teenage years were tumultuous ... causing me to be estranged from dad for awhile while i lived with a mentally ill mother who eventually passed and later an abusive boyfriend ... anyways ...

at 18 i was reunited with my father and have lived with him since ... slowly my life evened out and i was also reunited with the ideas and teachings i learned as a child ... finding many talents in those areas once more ... though keeping them very guarded ...

recently i cannot find better word to describe my life has become very satisfying and happy ... i found a job though not quiet what i would have chosen that provides me with the money i need to perhaps go back to school and live on (i do collections and found i do have a bit of a talent for it and have been able to make good commission ... and luck for getting into a good position to do so and people who helped me get there)

though despite my great happiness with my personal position and luck i find almost all around me are having the worst luck ... my current boyfriend incurring many unexpected costs from slight accidents ... my father having issues with work and money ... as well as problems in the relationships with my immediate family (not including me directly) that threaten to tear my family apart...

i've tried my best to help ... offering money to those close who need ( my father accepts my bf refuses ) ... and in the family matter i can do absolutely nothing though i would like to very much because it hurts those i love ...

anyways the whole point to this seemingly pointless rant is ... i can see the separation happening ... between those of service to self and those of service to others ... i see it in my own family ... splitting it in 2 ... and i feel sad ... though i know it is necessary ... at points i fell guilty for having such a good time of life right now while others close to me have issues i can't help ...

to anyone who got this far thank you i had some stuff i needed off my chest any insight anyone might have would be appreciate ...

love always

[ufUUZCnc]

it is painful to watch our families and loved ones go through the transformation process, isn't it? it's hard not to want to go in there and try to fix things and try to eliminate all that pain. yet, when i go within myself, trusting that all the answers are there (and they always have been for me) and that there is nothing i have to "figure out"--just ask the question of my soul and let go, quit analyzing--i suddenly see it all more clearly. for me, honoring them means to allow them to walk through their own dark nights, for that seems the only way each of us discovers that "jewel within."

and when i can make that shift in my own perspective i feel myself able to send them my unconditional love and light and belief in their own ability to navigate this experience called life. suddenly i don't feel the need to coach or direct or even say a word except maybe "i trust you to find your way through this."

i just walked through a family-related night myself last night and i found myself reminding myself that the only real moment is now--not yesterday, not tomorrow--just now.

thank you for sharing--we all take something away from connections like this...

love and light and honor,
penny

[viagsjicguara]

the sadness you feel is compassion pouring out. we all want good things for those we care about, but you are correct, polarization is occuring. i too see it in my own family, and yes, it does make me a little sad. but, i cannot infringe upon their free will. in the end, their journey is their own. wish them the best and continue to support them.

if i may, continue to be a beacon of light for those around you. continue your empathy and offering of help. i usually say "you can't help someone who won't help themselves first", which is a little strong, but true...

stay strong. when the time is right, you will be there for those you care about. you can't control when this will happen, but it will.

art

[Ocqljudq]

i totally agree with art.


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[eliniaguilefp7m]

i have also found myself in this situation. my family members are having financial problems yet i have, as yet, been spared of this experience. on the contrary, things are going very well for me. i find myself feeling guilty that i have been having such good luck and they haven't. i try to help them as best i can but it seems that the problems they are having stem from the way they live their life and the choices they make. basically, serving self rather than others... thank you for all your insights into this matter.

marlene

[andreas]

i am only 22 years old, but since i was 18 i have been suffering from a lot of depression....before i awakened i kind of like being ignorant....i was ignorant, but still a good person.....now it seems like all my dreams are over...i sit here in the same circle and nothing is happening i ask for help and it never came, no signs anything. i guess i will just keep on with my life and abandon all my dreams get a job and be an average joe. i was a good person in life, but bad karma all surrounds me for some reason....i start to realize if this ascension stuff will even make a difference.it has offered hope and has helped me through some bad days, but time is now and my dreams are dewindling...i'm only getting older. i thought by maybe seeing 11:11 and 12:34 and i have had scychorties

[Drysnyaty]

note to 'understanding'...i can tell you honestly, my friend, that we have all been in the same place. i can sympathize and say it's a universal 'malady'.

often, outer issues of a negative, depressing or dispiriting nature are indicative that some of the ways we are conducting our lives run at a tangent to what our higher self is asking us to pursue. although we may ask for guidance till we're blue in the face and still feel if our pleas fall on deaf ears, that call for guidance and help is always heard, and aid is always available, if we can learn how to listen for it.

i have found that when i go to bed at night, if i ask for a dream to illustrate for me what i need to hear, i may dream about some really weird stuff that seems to have little to do with anything. but if i stick to it and ask again on subsequent nights, i find the dreams may change but there's something at the root of it that stays the same.

you may have already noticed in your life some weird dream-themes that recur for you, sometimes for years. but if you get in the habit of asking your higher self to help you when you prepare to dream, you may find this process intensifying.


now you may find you don't like the things you're seeing. but if you understand that the dark side of yourself needs to be brought up into the light and looked at and understood, forgiven and accepted, you may find you are being pointed at things you least suspected you had issues with, and need to pass through in order to unblock your route to a higher sense of lightness of being.

in knowing what you're going through, as all of us go through a dark night of the soul from time to time, i would suggest digging a little deeper, and would also suggest finding the readings of q'uo for an inspirational boost to your process.

be patient and diligent, and i'm sure you'll find things starting to move for you!

i shall send love.:d

mark