[ffdfriendforurr]

I know a couple who are spending their savings and racking up cc debt for the "special day". All I can do is shake my head and lol at them when they fight over money in their marriage and divorce.

A wedding is one day. A marriage is forever. Marriage is more important than a wedding.

[pharweqto]

I've always thought that. But hey, different strokes.

Welcome, BTW.

[serius_06]

yes, always thought it was stupid....if you're rich, fine...but most aren't.

My brother and his fiancee are planning a gorgeous wedding. (Okay, she is)
and are not spending a ton at all.

Creativity goes a long way.

[kilibry]

My wedding cost $50 & took place in a courthouse in San Diego, so my view may be a little biased.

[education]

My neighbors across the street gave me this answer about the time I was married. When they want something, they buy it. They bought a 58" JVC HD when they were walking through an appliance store to buy a new dryer filter!

However, no Christmas or birthday gifts. Get what you want when you want it, materialism is not the meaning of special days. This from an advertising guy who pushes you to waste $4 on a mother's day card for a holiday that does not exist! It was literally created by Hallmark to generate more sales.



Don't waste your money on crap like this.
Give mom some of your time, take her for a nice meal! She wants to see you!
Opens the door to being out-of-town for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years!

[scoundtrack]

However, no Christmas or birthday gifts. Get what you want when you want it, materialism is not the meaning of special days.

That's EXACTLY how we live.

We buy stuff for each other - and together - all the time. But, we don't give "special day" gifts.

[Indidockobeni]

My wedding was reasonable. Went to a local restaurant, the handled everything from the food, entertainment, cake and photographer for one low price. They organized it all. No hassles.
My sister spent a ton on her daughter's and mine was just as nice. I will look for the same type deal when my daughter gets married.

[dumadegg]

My wedding was reasonable. Went to a local restaurant, the handled everything from the food, entertainment, cake and photographer for one low price. They organized it all. No hassles.
My sister spent a ton on her daughter's and mine was just as nice. I will look for the same type deal when my daughter gets married.

Me & the ex went to a nearby Chinese buffet.

[User-Luser]

Me & the ex went to a nearby Chinese buffet.

My daughter says she wants a Mexican restaurant

[megatrendsZ]

My daughter says she wants a Mexican restaurant

And, why not Fajitas are an excellent treat for your guests. A little secret from us in the southwestern United States. Originally, Fajitas were a Mexican concoction using "skirt steak" which is polite for the stomach lining of a cow.

Americans figured out quickly that this would not satisfy the American palate, so they changed the meat from skirt steak to sirloin. Over the years the condiments changed to to more expensive ingredients like guacamole and various cheeses.

If you come to the southwest for Fajitas you might want to eat Fajitas in the better restaurants, (about $18 per person). Skirt steak will not please the Anglo pallet.

I have not ordered a steak in years, we always go for Fajitas.

[Ceakicknunk]

My wife and I went fairly cheap for our wedding. Went to Mexico as most of her family lives down there anyways and couldnt afford to travel to the states. Fun stuff really for a few grand.

[giftbestcom]

The expense that gets me is an engagement ring. Marketing types of have convinced many Americans that you should spend 2 months salary on a ring just to propose.

If the man is wealthy and doesn't need to worry about retirement, house payments and college for future or current children, than it might be OK. Otherwise, is any woman that wants or would even accept such from the average working American be worth marrying at all?

[iH1wMOhE]

The number one cause of divorce is marriage

[VonErmad4]

The number one cause of divorce is marriage

Yes. Statistics show that 100% of all divorcees got married. I'm not making this up!

[Anamehuskeene]

Yes. Statistics show that 100% of all divorcees got married. I'm not making this up!

True that!!..Ive done it twice..The second one was like running back into a burning house

[LesLattis]

The expense that gets me is an engagement ring. Marketing types of have convinced many Americans that you should spend 2 months salary on a ring just to propose.

If the man is wealthy and doesn't need to worry about retirement, house payments and college for future or current children, than it might be OK. Otherwise, is any woman that wants or would even accept such from the average working American be worth marrying at all?

That kinda reminds me of a commerical a few years ago, I can not recall what it was about, but the guy asks her to marry him, she pauses & says lemmie see the ring first".........

[lapyignipinge]

The expense that gets me is an engagement ring. Marketing types of have convinced many Americans that you should spend 2 months salary on a ring just to propose.

If the man is wealthy and doesn't need to worry about retirement, house payments and college for future or current children, than it might be OK. Otherwise, is any woman that wants or would even accept such from the average working American be worth marrying at all?

YES, WTF is up with that? I can't believe I forgot about it.

BRB, I need to "prove" my love by buying worthless diamonds that have their price inflated because of De Beers monopoly. Sigh.

[lh88gFzI]

The expense that gets me is an engagement ring. Marketing types of have convinced many Americans that you should spend 2 months salary on a ring just to propose.

If the man is wealthy and doesn't need to worry about retirement, house payments and college for future or current children, than it might be OK. Otherwise, is any woman that wants or would even accept such from the average working American be worth marrying at all?

Thank you. I have been feeling very out of it in this thread. Going out to dinner at a nice hotel instead of the prom. Writing up power of attorney contract instead of a wedding. Visiting her relatives out of State, then blowing out at Mardi Gras as a honeymoon celebration. I was afraid what we did about rings would be two unorthodox for DCJ.

We had decided to get married, and the pressure was really on me because I refused to give up my Friday nights out, (as did she eventually). I wanted to make a gesture like an engagement ring type things, but we both agree a diamond ring was foolish.

What to do? I wanted to do it the next night. I went to Sears, and bought two stainless steel wedding rings for $160. That night I proclaimed that I wanted a wedding contract signed, but here was the ring now, yes or no. Her reaction was true astonishment followed by tears. It really is the thought that counts.

[Quick$bux]

My daughter got married last month.
The theme was "Steam Punk".
Clothing is a mixture of Victorian England and American Wild West.
With a touch of Jules Verne science fiction technology.
(machinery powered by steam or clock-works)
All the groomsmen wore c1910 automobile goggles on their tophats.

The cost was modest because all the work was done by volunteers, and my wife is excellent at finding bargains for anything that must be purchased.
The wedding was held in the Victorian "Shelton-McMurphy House" (an historical Eugene landmark) which we got for a significant discount because I'm a SMH Society member.
The wedding was preceded by buffet lunch for the 40-50 guests.
Total cost was less than $500.


Mac

[Rememavotscam]

steampunk is my alltime favorite style!