[S.T.D.]

Indian weddings are just full of nonsense. When i was preparing for my marriage there were so many nonsensical restrictions. Yet when i asked the people why do i have to follow all these, nobody had an answer. All they can say is that "Thats how its done. Its supposed to be like that. Its good for you!" I think 99% of them do not know the real and correct reasons behind the customs. They just follow it blindly. Here are some of my personal experiences.
1) when the girl's family visits the guy"s family, the girl cannot go over. It is just not right.
2) my wedding was in dec and june i went to india for holidays. So i wanted to buy my wedding sari there due to the wider selections that were available. But there was a big issue saying that it is too soon to buy it cos it makes it seem that i am waiting for my wedding and it will delay or drag the day away. Does it make sense people?
3)And of course there was the colour issue. Only red or yellow.
4)bangle ceremony- the guy cannot come to the girl's house.
5) Thali prayer- girl cannot go to guys house.
6)3 days before wedding, you cannot step out of the house. if not something bad will happen
7)The person who loves me the most, my mum, cannot participate actively in anything cos she is a widow.....
Does any of this makes sense? Bloody indian beliefs. I dont think anyone can love me more than my mum. Yet she is pushed away just like that. Let me tell you all that i did not follow any of this bloody nonsense. I insisted that they do not make sense and did it the way i liked. I made my mum stand in the front during the wedding, i bought the sari i liked, I visited my husband's family. He attended the bangle ceremony....etc.
We are still happily married and nothing went wrong. Wake up your ideas people. Dont just blindly follow customs that make no sense. Question everything........ there might have been a reason to do all these in those days but the world is changing. Some things or practices will just get out-dated. We are in the 21st century and we do not need to be bogged down by ancient beliefs.
I am sure that you all agree that we are a generation that is more educated and knowlegeable. Hence i will say we are smarter than our ancestors and even our parents. We can consider their suggestions but dont follow it blindly. Think it out for yourself. Afterall we are the only creation of god that has the ability to think and rationalise. So do it!