[MannoFr]

FOR WOMEN:
1) Take an oath not to marry any person who demands dowry.
2) Be brave when you face situations of adverse effects. Fully believe that you are in noway inferior to men. Don’t be a coward and a victim of torture.
3) If they harass u beyond any particular limit, GET A DIVORCE. Committing Suicide is NOT the solution. Life does NOT become futile, for one worthless human being or a family.
4) Divorcees can earn a good living, thro any decent job. If u don’t have children, spend the money for good cause. Do social service. If u succeed in meeting any man, who can live up to ur expectation, marry him.
5) The society does not look down upon divorcees anymore. If u accidentally happen to hear any wounding words, DONT CARE A PENNY FOR IT. It is better than tolerating wounding words against ur parents by some unworthy in-laws.
6) Sit and talk with your parents. Explain them ur desires. Do not be forced into any marriage.
7) Sit and talk with your future in-laws and fiancé as to yours expectations. Do not just pose before them, for their acceptance of your appearance alone. You are much more than just your physical appearance. Ask them their demands, dreams, aims, expectations. This would surely lead to happy marriage from both sides.
8) Be a part of planning your marriage. Know the reasons, causes, and sources of expenses. Do not be ignorant of your parents’ hardships. If they spend on any unwanted item, which is either not demanded upon or is unnecessary, then, CUT THOSE EXPENSES.
9) Ladies should understand and think about this problem as a curse to womanhood. Forget that u are a groom’s mother or sister or relative. YOU ARE A WOMAN. Rules don’t change because you accidentally happen to be groom’s relatives. IT IS A SHAME, TO FIND THAT THE PRESSURE ON DOWRY, AND DEATH DUE TO DOWRY, IS PRIMARILY BECAUSE OF WOMEN WHO STAND ON THE OTHER SIDE AND DEMAND THE SAME. 1. very good oath! but as i already mentioned, what if the guy only refrains from asking cos he knows that your parents would give sth or if they don't give now, they are rich, so they will give gifts later and in the end, the wealth will come to the girl?
2. i second that girls should be courageous and shouldn't feel that they are in any way inferior to men! i feel compelled now to quote from only of my favourite poems:

Oh my beautiful sari
I love you much to tell you free
You enlighten the feminism in me
For which I should thank you much
For I am a woman first
The birth I consider the best.

3, 4 and 5. yes, divorce IS an option! just cos divorce should be avoided as an out for silly problems doesn't mean it is not the option when faced with torture.
6 and 7. yes, talking openly abt stuff can solve so many things!
8. yup, don't let ur parents spend more than they can and even if they can afford it, extravagant expenditure should be avoided. think abt what other more useful stuff you could spend that money on!!! it's ok to have a moderately grand wedding. i mean, after all, it's a celebration. but don't overdo it!
9. yes, ladies! stand up for your fellow ladies!