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Hello andyrobyn,

I was asking you because i totally agree with you that "spiritual love" is very different from the conventional way people understand love.

For instance, many people believe that loving your country (which makes you nationalistic) or loving your tribe (which makes you tribal) is a nobel and commendable thing, while in fact nationalism and tribalism have caused a lot of hostility an wars between human beings. I am not saying that we should not love our countries or tribes, but identifying ourselves with small groups of people is not the way to experience spiritual love imo.

Many believe that Romantic Love (Romeo & Juliet) is true love! And they are deeply convinced that this love is not a selfish love. But if their partner chooses to leave them and to be with someone else (even if this move their partner happier) they would suffer and despair!

In my opinion, love can only exist when there is no suffering. As long as there is a self (dualism) then all our feelings and actions has to be selflish (how could it be otherwise)?

Best Regards,
Bundokji