[neictscek]

are you saying that this chatroom is you the "daddy" and the members are your "daughter" and were just playing and learning in a natural environment?

Hardly, I was giving a real life example as real life is much more important than this microsm called the internet, don't you think. I've barely been on the board longer than you and there isn't any need to read into the example more than is there.

if so,i'm cool with that. i'm also trying to establish a set of boundaries in your playground. i was kicked out of another playground for sharing my snacks with the other kids, and i'm trying to avoid this from happening again, even though some of the kids are throwing sand in my face. could you explain the rules? do the older kids get special treatment?

That's why I'm trying to give you real life examples I think we should be behaving the same as we do with the people we live and work with and see every day.

If you think about the problem that got you kicked out (I don't know whether you deserved it or not and even if you did I don't think anyone here would make an issue out of it) I think it would be worth reflecting if that situation has also arisen with the people you live and work with and see every day. If not why not, if so why.

On a discussion board not everone is going to agree with everyone all the time, it's normal, and if this wasn't the case we would have less opportunity to learn from each other. It's not personal and it only becomes problematic when we take it as such.