[somasideff]

Don't worry. He is becoming a monk based on his own self-will, and either he will crash and burn, or he will find humility and reconcile with his family and ask for forgiveness for treating them so badly. Better he direct his self-will for now into being a bull-headed, cock sure saint, than becoming a drug addict and criminal.

The other issue, regarding the role of his abbot, I don't want to touch with a ten foot pole, because what I might say might not be very constructive, plus, we only know one side of the story.