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**lrtoinbert** · 10-05-2010, 12:19 AM

Thank you! It was making me nuts trying to remember it.

I have friends who did a domestic adoption of a newborn. The mother was pretty unstable, and they were kind of worried about what sort of presence she would be in their baby's life, since they were required to keep in touch with her. but after a while she just drifted away and they haven't heard from her in several years. Meanwhile the little girl is gorgeous and happy and thriving. I really shudder to think what might have happened to her had she not found her loving family.

You're welcome. But warn your friend though that the mother can resurface and make things ugly, especially if she's unbalanced. It's a good idea to get out of as many of the public databases as possible (Lexis-Nexus, Choicepoint, Intelius, do the Junkbuster's thing, etc.) It's sad, but family courts are often run by the most incompetent boobs. Hopefully you're friend and their child will never have to deal with the mother, but it's better to play defensively.

10-05-2010, 12:19 AM	#24
lrtoinbert Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 380 Senior Member	Thank you! It was making me nuts trying to remember it. I have friends who did a domestic adoption of a newborn. The mother was pretty unstable, and they were kind of worried about what sort of presence she would be in their baby's life, since they were required to keep in touch with her. but after a while she just drifted away and they haven't heard from her in several years. Meanwhile the little girl is gorgeous and happy and thriving. I really shudder to think what might have happened to her had she not found her loving family. You're welcome. But warn your friend though that the mother can resurface and make things ugly, especially if she's unbalanced. It's a good idea to get out of as many of the public databases as possible (Lexis-Nexus, Choicepoint, Intelius, do the Junkbuster's thing, etc.) It's sad, but family courts are often run by the most incompetent boobs. Hopefully you're friend and their child will never have to deal with the mother, but it's better to play defensively.
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