You know sunshine05, this is a tough situation, and I had a similar one. My girlfriend's friend's husband got cancer recently, about a year ago. I immediately starting touting a bunch of anti-cancer resources I have on the web (and some have been applied in real life) and offered to help them try several of the alternative treatments. My girlfriend was not supportive of suggesting the alternative treatment at all, and supported their decision to go the hospital route. That man is now dead, less than one year later. He passed away just a few weekends ago. The whole time, anytime I brought up ANY alternative cancer treatments, she basically yelled at me. She didn't want to hear it. Instead she decided to support the friend in a treatment that has less than 10% success rate. I don't understand why they have to make ME feel like a huge dick for suggesting that they try to get treatment outside of an establishment that kills 90% of the people who go through it. Just pisses me right off that *I* am the bad guy here. What I said would happen is exactly what ended up happening.