[Meowmeowz]

Hey there, counseling will only give you what you take from it. Let me break that down. If you find a counselor who you guys "fit" with, and you feel you can be comfortable, honest and open, then you'll really benefit from it. All counseling is, is a forum, a platform for your husband and you to talk your issues out, and it offers a structured way of dealing with those issues so you can heal from them in the best way possible.

As for cheaters, I've been caught up in trying to figure out not only HOW someone can do it continuously, but when caught completely justify it. I guess it may be that if the cheater didn't justify it, then he/she would have to actually DEAL with the consequenses, and they're too weak to do that, so they just make their excuses. It's a defense mechanism, a way to survive their cr.appy actions.

But the ones who DO have the balls to admit to their mistakes actually have the opportunity to heal. And that's what counts in the end.

I wish you and your husband the best of luck in therapy, and in your ultimate recovery.

~sweetface