[WeissVine]

well said breemood.

I'd like to comment on the thing about people admitting their wrong doing and trying to better themselves and make amends.

Even though I am a firm believer of once a cheater always a cheater...it would be rare that someone never cheats again...cuz even if they don't cheat...deep down you know they'd like to.

But if they can change...then it really can't be with the person they betrayed...because with that person it will never really be the same. Sure there may be some success stories of people that forgave their cheater and things seemed to be ok from there on out...but is it really?

Before I decided on divorce....I told my wife that we would work on the marriage...and from her perspective we were doing just that...but I really was just reeling inside. The fact that I found out she was still messing around was irrelevant as to whether I truly forgave her or not. I really hadn't and knew that even though I put on a happy face, I was just constantly feeling resentment towards her inside.