You can't pay attention to what anyone else is doing. You just have to hit your shots the way you see it. I know what you mean though I have to resist the urge to try to kill the ball when I am playing with a big hitter. Remember though that those guys really don't have an advantage unless they can control their distance, if they are hitting a 7 iron 200 yards one time and 180 the next their game will suffer, better to hit it 165 every time.