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Old 09-08-2009, 07:33 AM   #13
forextradinginfo

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Our golf club pretends to be progressive--the bylaws refer to the Member and the Spouse, and the rules for a divorced or widowed spouse getting full membership are pretty liberal. But let's face it, women are still second class citizens.

Minor but annoying. Huge member-guest tourney on Wednesday. There were 140 people; I was one of three women in the field. We invited two clients.

In the men's locker room, each guest had a special locker (they set aside guest lockers) with his name on it. There's a bar right outside, and after the tourney, they had a waiter going back and forth taking drink orders.

As the spouse of a non-equity member, I'm in the weird position of being neither a member nor a guest. I don't have my own locker. There are no guest lockers in the women's locker room. There isn't even a coat rack. No attendant in sight that day. When I was showering/changing/becoming naturally beautiful after the round, all I could think was how much I wanted something to drink. No one taking orders. Even if I'd called the bar on the house phone, the wait staff is all male, so no one could have brought me anything.

Don't even get me going about men only first thing on weekend mornings. Women get Tuesdays and Thursdays. Whippee! I work.

I know we don't have a whole lot of female club members here, but you guys have significant others. How are your clubs doing about treating men and women equally.
I'm not a member of a club for more reasons than the discrimination aspect. I just don't like the overall holier than thou mindset that you see at most private clubs. I could never be comfortable in an environment such as you describe, even if I was one of the men that they are catering to. My wife wouldn't stand for such treatment, and I wouldn't expect her to. I really don't understand your husband's attitude. I grew up in the late 40's and 50's, but I developed my adult mores in the 60's and 70's (graduated high school in 1964). That includes a rabid opposition to discrimination of any sort. I am not a political liberal, but I don't feel that you have to be one to know that bigotry in any form is wrong.


When my wife and I play together (not as often as I would like), we play at one of the many public courses nearby, or we go to one of the very nice mountain courses west of town. We have never encountered the sort of biased treatment you seem to deal with regularly. If we ever did, that course would never see us again. But then when they are in it for the fees, they have to be more accommodating.
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