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**Daleman1984** · 06-12-2012, 06:24 PM

NOTE: This is not a salafi bashing thread

So i have had sisters approaching me a few times in the masjid telling me im doing something wrong... every time this has happened i went and actually checked what they were saying against a salafi fatwa website..and even according to the salafi scholars these sisters have been wrong

like for example...i was told that i should pray in the congregation because its more rewarding than praying alone....i checked this out and found

then i was told i shouldn't go into sujood knees first because its how dogs pray (i knew the sister was mixing the hadith about camel and dog here but i didnt say anything)

i found:

It does seem that the sisters are maybe not very learned but whatever they have learned they are trying to pass on as they genuinely feel it is the correct way and the only way to pray...i don't think they are just attacking me because im following a madhab etc...i think they don't actually understand the whole differences thing
I don't want to get into debates with people especially if i and they are not very knowledgeable as talking without knowledge only creates fitnah...so what would be the best way in dealing with these situations without causing offence or being rude...

Salaams sister, very valid question

I suggest providing them with some salafi lectures on differences of opinion, so that they understand that issues like knees first or hands is a valid difference and that you hold a legitimate opinion whilst respecting the opinion they hold

the prophet SAW always used hikmah so you did very well to be patient and think through the best way to approach them rather than charging in mashAllah

Also some lectures on the importance of scholars and teh importance of laymen not trying to teach and correct people, aswell as the pledge itself that I mentioned before IF they respect the du'aat on that list

you mentioned though that your local salafis are unfortunately madkhalis though so Allahu musta'aan, very difficult people to deal with. FInd out which lecturers they listen to and ill try to dig up some lectures for you to give them inshAllah.

The reason I suggest salafi lectures is because you wont come accross as trying to convert them to anything which makes them more likely to listen to you, in the same way that if I was trying to educate a deobandi on something, providing them with deobandi lectures or fatawa will be much more beneficial than giving them salafi materials

for those salafi bashers out there, just so you know, I get this problem with hanafis too, so dont go thinking your group is high and mighty, we both have zealous people who want to do khair and tehya re our brotehrs and sisters afterall so dealing with them with rahmah and hikmah is a must, show compassion to Allahs creation and Allah will show you compassion from the heavens inshAllah

06-12-2012, 06:24 PM	#11
Daleman1984 Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 397 Senior Member	NOTE: This is not a salafi bashing thread So i have had sisters approaching me a few times in the masjid telling me im doing something wrong... every time this has happened i went and actually checked what they were saying against a salafi fatwa website..and even according to the salafi scholars these sisters have been wrong like for example...i was told that i should pray in the congregation because its more rewarding than praying alone....i checked this out and found then i was told i shouldn't go into sujood knees first because its how dogs pray (i knew the sister was mixing the hadith about camel and dog here but i didnt say anything) i found: It does seem that the sisters are maybe not very learned but whatever they have learned they are trying to pass on as they genuinely feel it is the correct way and the only way to pray...i don't think they are just attacking me because im following a madhab etc...i think they don't actually understand the whole differences thing I don't want to get into debates with people especially if i and they are not very knowledgeable as talking without knowledge only creates fitnah...so what would be the best way in dealing with these situations without causing offence or being rude... Salaams sister, very valid question I suggest providing them with some salafi lectures on differences of opinion, so that they understand that issues like knees first or hands is a valid difference and that you hold a legitimate opinion whilst respecting the opinion they hold the prophet SAW always used hikmah so you did very well to be patient and think through the best way to approach them rather than charging in mashAllah Also some lectures on the importance of scholars and teh importance of laymen not trying to teach and correct people, aswell as the pledge itself that I mentioned before IF they respect the du'aat on that list you mentioned though that your local salafis are unfortunately madkhalis though so Allahu musta'aan, very difficult people to deal with. FInd out which lecturers they listen to and ill try to dig up some lectures for you to give them inshAllah. The reason I suggest salafi lectures is because you wont come accross as trying to convert them to anything which makes them more likely to listen to you, in the same way that if I was trying to educate a deobandi on something, providing them with deobandi lectures or fatawa will be much more beneficial than giving them salafi materials for those salafi bashers out there, just so you know, I get this problem with hanafis too, so dont go thinking your group is high and mighty, we both have zealous people who want to do khair and tehya re our brotehrs and sisters afterall so dealing with them with rahmah and hikmah is a must, show compassion to Allahs creation and Allah will show you compassion from the heavens inshAllah
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