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**SteantyjetMaw** · 06-12-2012, 10:36 PM

NOTE: This is not a salafi bashing thread
It does seem that the sisters are maybe not very learned but whatever they have learned they are trying to pass on as they genuinely feel it is the correct way and the only way to pray...i don't think they are just attacking me because im following a madhab etc...i think they don't actually understand the whole differences thing
I don't want to get into debates with people especially if i and they are not very knowledgeable as talking without knowledge only creates fitnah...so what would be the best way in dealing with these situations without causing offence or being rude...

Assalamu 'alaykum,

This is not restricted to a Salafi. You will find even hardcore Madhhab followers, go to others and say they are wrong [and this is their lack of knowledge to recognize the other schools or other valid opinions].

If you don't want to seem rude nor debate, then you don't need to tell them what evidences there are and so forth.

You may politely say to them:

''Assalamu 'alaykum dear sister[s], I appreciate your concern in informing me these issues. However, I believe these issues that you raised are valid but I follow another valid opinion. I am sorry, I do not have the time to go into evidences and so forth.

May Allah bless you for informing me about these issues as we all need reminders from time to time.

Wassalam.''

If you say it politely and then they are still annoyed at you, then it is not your fault and you don't need to keep thinking about them. If they do it tommorow again, give the same reply.

Slowly, they will leave you alone. Don't worry what others think of you in matters of deen where you are following someone qualified. Hold onto your principles with dignity.

Remember, whether they are Salafi or not, you must deal with how you want others to deal with you.

If you go into getting all the evidences and debating with them, often it is futile and damages your own imaan.

Wassalam.

06-12-2012, 10:36 PM	#22
SteantyjetMaw Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 566 Senior Member	NOTE: This is not a salafi bashing thread It does seem that the sisters are maybe not very learned but whatever they have learned they are trying to pass on as they genuinely feel it is the correct way and the only way to pray...i don't think they are just attacking me because im following a madhab etc...i think they don't actually understand the whole differences thing I don't want to get into debates with people especially if i and they are not very knowledgeable as talking without knowledge only creates fitnah...so what would be the best way in dealing with these situations without causing offence or being rude... Assalamu 'alaykum, This is not restricted to a Salafi. You will find even hardcore Madhhab followers, go to others and say they are wrong [and this is their lack of knowledge to recognize the other schools or other valid opinions]. If you don't want to seem rude nor debate, then you don't need to tell them what evidences there are and so forth. You may politely say to them: ''Assalamu 'alaykum dear sister[s], I appreciate your concern in informing me these issues. However, I believe these issues that you raised are valid but I follow another valid opinion. I am sorry, I do not have the time to go into evidences and so forth. May Allah bless you for informing me about these issues as we all need reminders from time to time. Wassalam.'' If you say it politely and then they are still annoyed at you, then it is not your fault and you don't need to keep thinking about them. If they do it tommorow again, give the same reply. Slowly, they will leave you alone. Don't worry what others think of you in matters of deen where you are following someone qualified. Hold onto your principles with dignity. Remember, whether they are Salafi or not, you must deal with how you want others to deal with you. If you go into getting all the evidences and debating with them, often it is futile and damages your own imaan. Wassalam.
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