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**Catieliecutty** · 06-07-2012, 12:12 AM

Nothing works if it has two bosses, no company or government. One has to be the leader. Yes the husband needs to be wise, understanding and compromising but he also needs to be dicisive. You need to work together to work out your differences calmly and in adult fashion. If he did not warn you before your marriage that he may want you to wear the hijab after marriage then he has made a mistake...he should have said this. If you mention this to him he should be willing to come to a middle ground assuming that you both want to be together. Otherwise some things are just deal breakers, when no one is willing to compromise.

I heard Muslims get married to prevent their partners from committing sins. You help your husband and he helps you and you go through life protecting each other and supporting each other, insha-Allah you raise happy, well rounded and good Muslim children in a peaceful home. Say Asalamu Alaykum to each other, smile, and be willing to step down hopefully you will be happy. (I know some men can be abusive, controlling etc. insha-Allah this is not your hubby).

Islam is about equality and my husband should do what i want too why do i have to vhange everything. He is not the boss!!

06-07-2012, 12:12 AM	#14
Catieliecutty Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 507 Senior Member	Nothing works if it has two bosses, no company or government. One has to be the leader. Yes the husband needs to be wise, understanding and compromising but he also needs to be dicisive. You need to work together to work out your differences calmly and in adult fashion. If he did not warn you before your marriage that he may want you to wear the hijab after marriage then he has made a mistake...he should have said this. If you mention this to him he should be willing to come to a middle ground assuming that you both want to be together. Otherwise some things are just deal breakers, when no one is willing to compromise. I heard Muslims get married to prevent their partners from committing sins. You help your husband and he helps you and you go through life protecting each other and supporting each other, insha-Allah you raise happy, well rounded and good Muslim children in a peaceful home. Say Asalamu Alaykum to each other, smile, and be willing to step down hopefully you will be happy. (I know some men can be abusive, controlling etc. insha-Allah this is not your hubby). Islam is about equality and my husband should do what i want too why do i have to vhange everything. He is not the boss!!
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