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In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

At the outset, we sympathize with you and pray that Allah Ta’ālā grants you and your mother patience, fortitude and serenity and that He guide your father towards the right path. Aameen. This is indeed a poignant and upsetting issue.

Your father is 68 years old and it seems that he has been habituated to these vices and iniquities since his younger age and unfortunately it is very unlikely; albeit not impossible; for him to reform completely. It is just as they say ‘old habits die hard’. However, this does not mean that you just leave him to continue these sins. You should request a relative or someone that your father looks up to or is friends with; someone influential to speak to your father and explain the errors of his way to him.

You should also try to bring Deen into your house. You can do this by ensuring that you pray your Salah, recite the Holy Quran daily and bring Islamic literature etc. into the house. Inshallah, this will have an effect on your father and bring him closer to Deen and distance him from his bad habits.

Hopefully, once he sees your concern he will feel remorse and stop.

Finally, you should make engage yourself in a lot of zikr to invoke Allah’s mercy and should constantly make Dua that Allah Ta’ālā grants your father the ability to see the errors of his way and to reform himself.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mawlana Saanwal ibn Muhammad,
Student Darul Iftaa
UK

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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