Ask from Allah SWT to grant you that which is best for your duniya and akhirah. It is not the means ( asbaab ) that make a person happy but the taseer ( effects ) are what we crave. I guess what you are looking for is a life with happiness, peace of mind and respect between the spouses. We do not want to end up being the toddler who runs towards the fire just becuase it looks shiny and fascinating. As the elders say we have become so besotted with Asbaab that even in dua we supplicate for the asbaab. Sorry if I discouraged you, but I feel it would be better if you pray that Allah SWT gives you X if that X will be a source of happiness in duniya and akhirah.