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Bismillah Ir-Rehman Ir-Raheem
Walekum-Assalam, my dear, dear, precious sister in Islam:
May Allah bless you, Sister
.
Thank you so much, Sister, for placing your trust in us and trusting us with your question.
Sister, in our times, it has become very difficult to follow Islam. There is no doubt about this, Sister. When you reverted (and I do not know your reversion story), did you think it would be easy, Sister? Sister, the easiest things on this earth are very cheap, but Allah has made paradise expensive. He has asked us to believe in Him and trust in Him.
I will not tell you to wear the hijab. However, what I will tell you is that you should not construe the stares or any behavior that discomforts you as stemming from them, Sister, as it is truly
shaitaan
that is leading others astray in this manner.
Sister, I will not tell you or console you that there aren't negative aspects to wearing hijab in our times, because there are. What I will do
Insha-Allah
is ask you some questions that might shed light on why you might want to continue to make the decision to wear hijab.
Sister, you said you have kids. I don't know how old they are, but maybe you don't have time to make
dawaa
to people as a result of household responsibilities. However, your hijaab is
dawaa
every time you step outside wearing it.
Wear hijab proudly, Sister, because hijab is a sign of beauty, the beauty that
is
Islam.
I want to tell you that maybe, just maybe there might have been another woman who might have been watching you in a good manner and maybe as a result of your hijab she decided to study Islam. But would you know about her, Sister?
No, probably not.
What if maybe, just maybe there is a brother who had not ever heard of Islam and saw you wear the headscarf and thought you a strange creature? What if he then went on Google and decided he wanted to revert after learning all this information on Islam? Just because you had the courage to wear hijab. Sister, the truth is you will never find out the existence of these people, until the
aakhirah
, Sister. Nor will you see this as part of good deeds weighty as a mountain until the
aakhirah
.
Sister, whether you realize it or not, those ugly stares or other motions are a means for your immense, immense reward, especially when you can take the hijab off easily. Sister, you
are
beautiful. Do you realize that? That beauty is not subject to some man's whims, but it is an inner beauty. How can I say this when hijab is an outward aspect? Well, Sister, does it not take inner courage, inner conviction, and inner modesty for you to wear hijab?
Subhanallah
, Sister!
Sister, I love you for the sake of Allah. Would I wish harm upon my own sister? Sister, I am not advising you as anything but a dear friend whom I love despite never having seen or met you because I care about you.
Sister, the
shaitaan
wants you to weaken your commitment to hijab. Don't let him win, Sister. You are stronger than you think, Sister, and
shaitaan
is weaker than you may believe. Be sincere towards Allah, Sister, in this matter, and I
guarantee, guarantee
that Allah will take away what you dislike from the end of other people or compensate you with something better in this life or the next.
This is glad tidings, Sister!
Sister, also, if you do not give up, you will see how wonderfully Allah rewards His servants in this life and the hereafter, as this short video shows:
The Price of Sincerity in Commitment to Jihad Against Nafs
.
A little patience goes a long way, Sister, and it can help us surmount hurdles we never thought we could or ever would; in fact, Sister, adopting patience in the face of difficulties makes us stronger as soulful individuals. Sister, imagine, just imagine: If one of your kids was being bullied in school because he decided he would not support a bully in picking on other children, would you tell him to join the bully because of the bully's intimidation? No, Sister, you wouldn't. Then, my dear Sister, why would you let the world bully you into taking a decision on this matter?
Sister, despite our best intentions towards Allah, towards Islam, towards others, we sometimes forget why we do it all, any part of it. So,
Insha-Allah
, this is a reminder for you and me as well, not a video but an
ayat
of the Quran that I personally love:
"Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be affected by Allah's Reminder…?" (Quran 57:16).
What will be our answer, Sister?
That is the question, Sister.
Sister, on Judgment Day, the people who mocked you for your Islam, whether that was hijab, your modesty, your manners, your style
will cry and wish
they were you
as you will have
noor
on your face and will be laughing
Insha-Allah
like a mad and happy creature for the sacrifices you undertook in
dunya
for the sake of Allah.
Blink, Sister. See, this blink? That is the true value and meaning of the world. One blink. And gone. Over.
I don't know what you should do, Sister. I just know what I want to do.
May Allah make this easy for you,
and if you have time after finishing your daily chores, you may wish to watch a video that Brother Melbourne had been kind enough to share with us:
To Veil or Not to Veil
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If I have said anything that is good and true, it is from Allah, and anything other than that is my own mistake.
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