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**isogeople** · 09-06-2011, 05:51 PM

Why did the prophet have like 12 wives, while telling others to have max. 4 wives?

And why did his wives, accuse him for not dealing equally with them?

Aisha narrated many hadith about how the Prophet (saw) treated her better than other wives.

This is one of the hadith:

Narrated 'Urwa from 'Aisha: The wives of Allah's Apostle were in two groups. One group consisted of 'Aisha, Hafsa, Safiyya and Sauda; and the other group consisted of Um Salama and the other wives of Allah's Apostle. The Muslims knew that Allah's Apostle loved 'Aisha, so if any of them had a gift and wished to give to Allah's Apostle, he would delay it, till Allah's Apostle had come to 'Aisha's home and then he would send his gift to Allah's Apostle in her home. The group of Um Salama discussed the matter together and decided that Um Salama should request Allah's Apostle to tell the people to send their gifts to him in whatever wife's house he was. Um Salama told Allah's Apostle of what they had said, but he did not reply. Then they (those wives) asked Um Salama about it. She said, "He did not say anything to me." They asked her to talk to him again. She talked to him again when she met him on her day, but he gave no reply. When they asked her, she replied that he had given no reply. They said to her, "Talk to him till he gives you a reply." When it was her turn, she talked to him again. He then said to her, "Do not hurt me regarding Aisha, as the Divine Inspirations do not come to me on any of the beds except that of Aisha." On that Um Salama said, "I repent to Allah for hurting you." Then the group of Um Salama called Fatima, the daughter of Allah's Apostle and sent her to Allah's Apostle to say to him, "Your wives request to treat them and the daughter of Abu Bakr on equal terms." Then Fatima conveyed the message to him. The Prophet said, "O my daughter! Don't you love whom I love?" She replied in the affirmative and returned and told them of the situation. They requested her to go to him again but she refused. They then sent Zainab bint Jahsh who went to him and used harsh words saying, "Your wives request you to treat them and the daughter of Ibn Abu Quhafa on equal terms." On that she raised her voice and abused 'Aisha to her face so much so that Allah's Apostle looked at 'Aisha to see whether she would retort. 'Aisha started replying to Zainab till she silenced her. The Prophet then looked at 'Aisha and said, "She is really the daughter of Abu Bakr." (Bukhari, Book #47, Hadith #755)

12-13 is nothing, Huzoor salllahu alayhi wa sallam can have up to 100 wives or even 100+, he has the strength for them and he has the ability to deal justly with all even though he may have more than 100+ wives no problem he will deal justly with all and he has the strength for all. you are talking about a person who had the strength of 100 men of jannah, its no joke.

For the rest of us poor folk the max we can handle is 4 after that physically and mentally we cannot handle it, its wife overload. Now a days most can barely handle 1, sometimes 2-3, rarely 4.

Huzoor salallahu alayhi wa sallam never did unjust treatment to wives, you are mistaken. Go back to your teacher and request him to go over the lessons to you again.

There is ikhtilaaf difference of opinion amongst Ulama about who he salallahu alayhi wa sallam loved more, Hazrat Aisha (ra) or Hazrat Khadija (ra), they present proofs for each case. Its an interesting discussion, you should look into it and enjoy it. Its something to have interest in and enjoy and take lessons from to see how Rasoolullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam loved his wives and the words he used to show his affection for his wives - that is a real love story and real way to love wife, the best example for mankind.

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isogeople Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 476 Senior Member	Why did the prophet have like 12 wives, while telling others to have max. 4 wives? And why did his wives, accuse him for not dealing equally with them? Aisha narrated many hadith about how the Prophet (saw) treated her better than other wives. This is one of the hadith: Narrated 'Urwa from 'Aisha: The wives of Allah's Apostle were in two groups. One group consisted of 'Aisha, Hafsa, Safiyya and Sauda; and the other group consisted of Um Salama and the other wives of Allah's Apostle. The Muslims knew that Allah's Apostle loved 'Aisha, so if any of them had a gift and wished to give to Allah's Apostle, he would delay it, till Allah's Apostle had come to 'Aisha's home and then he would send his gift to Allah's Apostle in her home. The group of Um Salama discussed the matter together and decided that Um Salama should request Allah's Apostle to tell the people to send their gifts to him in whatever wife's house he was. Um Salama told Allah's Apostle of what they had said, but he did not reply. Then they (those wives) asked Um Salama about it. She said, "He did not say anything to me." They asked her to talk to him again. She talked to him again when she met him on her day, but he gave no reply. When they asked her, she replied that he had given no reply. They said to her, "Talk to him till he gives you a reply." When it was her turn, she talked to him again. He then said to her, "Do not hurt me regarding Aisha, as the Divine Inspirations do not come to me on any of the beds except that of Aisha." On that Um Salama said, "I repent to Allah for hurting you." Then the group of Um Salama called Fatima, the daughter of Allah's Apostle and sent her to Allah's Apostle to say to him, "Your wives request to treat them and the daughter of Abu Bakr on equal terms." Then Fatima conveyed the message to him. The Prophet said, "O my daughter! Don't you love whom I love?" She replied in the affirmative and returned and told them of the situation. They requested her to go to him again but she refused. They then sent Zainab bint Jahsh who went to him and used harsh words saying, "Your wives request you to treat them and the daughter of Ibn Abu Quhafa on equal terms." On that she raised her voice and abused 'Aisha to her face so much so that Allah's Apostle looked at 'Aisha to see whether she would retort. 'Aisha started replying to Zainab till she silenced her. The Prophet then looked at 'Aisha and said, "She is really the daughter of Abu Bakr." (Bukhari, Book #47, Hadith #755) 12-13 is nothing, Huzoor salllahu alayhi wa sallam can have up to 100 wives or even 100+, he has the strength for them and he has the ability to deal justly with all even though he may have more than 100+ wives no problem he will deal justly with all and he has the strength for all. you are talking about a person who had the strength of 100 men of jannah, its no joke. For the rest of us poor folk the max we can handle is 4 after that physically and mentally we cannot handle it, its wife overload. Now a days most can barely handle 1, sometimes 2-3, rarely 4. Huzoor salallahu alayhi wa sallam never did unjust treatment to wives, you are mistaken. Go back to your teacher and request him to go over the lessons to you again. There is ikhtilaaf difference of opinion amongst Ulama about who he salallahu alayhi wa sallam loved more, Hazrat Aisha (ra) or Hazrat Khadija (ra), they present proofs for each case. Its an interesting discussion, you should look into it and enjoy it. Its something to have interest in and enjoy and take lessons from to see how Rasoolullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam loved his wives and the words he used to show his affection for his wives - that is a real love story and real way to love wife, the best example for mankind.
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