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**malishka1025** · 07-20-2011, 11:26 AM

I also know that it is a major sunnah to visit the sickly, so in not telling people I am depriving the possibility that they would visit me/make dua for me, etc.

This line of yours reminded me of a message my one pastor told. He said that he dislikes receiving gifts. He likes to give gifts, but he does not like to get them. Then one day another pastor told him that by refusing the gifts of others, or by telling others not to give him anything, then he is taking away the blessing of others. (The blessing they receive for giving.) The pastor's message spoke to me, because I am one who does not like to receive gifts either.

But to extend it to what you wrote, if you feel that you are depriving others of their ability to visit you and make du'a for you, then you should next time inform them of your illness. I also dislike others to feel sympathy for me, so I can understand why you did not want to tell everyone. Sometimes we have to learn to set aside our own preferences.

One part of doing things for others, is also in allowing them to do things for us-- regardless of if we want it.

07-20-2011, 11:26 AM	#2
malishka1025 Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 413 Senior Member	I also know that it is a major sunnah to visit the sickly, so in not telling people I am depriving the possibility that they would visit me/make dua for me, etc. This line of yours reminded me of a message my one pastor told. He said that he dislikes receiving gifts. He likes to give gifts, but he does not like to get them. Then one day another pastor told him that by refusing the gifts of others, or by telling others not to give him anything, then he is taking away the blessing of others. (The blessing they receive for giving.) The pastor's message spoke to me, because I am one who does not like to receive gifts either. But to extend it to what you wrote, if you feel that you are depriving others of their ability to visit you and make du'a for you, then you should next time inform them of your illness. I also dislike others to feel sympathy for me, so I can understand why you did not want to tell everyone. Sometimes we have to learn to set aside our own preferences. One part of doing things for others, is also in allowing them to do things for us-- regardless of if we want it.
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