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By the way, I'm utterly rubbish at distinguishing between "finding fault in others" and "being on my guard against potential bad influences". The "Pollyanna" in me likes to think well of everyone (most of the time) but then I find that I'm making excuses for people - or thinking well of people - who reject the Sharia or Sunnah. Which is apparently not a good thing - I should not turn a blind eye to things like that, from what I understand. So, a few more hadith on this balance, please? I think it was Hadhrat Abdul Qadir Jilani who said to like or dislike people based only on their actions in relation to the Quran and Hadith. But I'm not sure how to do this, or when "not finding fault in others" becomes "over-tolerance to the point of loving people who deny Allah's laws."

So much in our religion is about balance, and I need lots of guidance on all kinds of balance. Any words of wisdom about the balance between fault-finding and over-tolerance?