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My prayers with you my dear brother, but you should also seek all the means that you can to resolve the situations as quick as possible.

Make a plan. Contact someone whom you can approach and is respected by most of them if there is anyone like that, explain the whole situation to him and try to make him as a middle man or a negotiator.

Stretch the importance of family unity and about the severe punishments from Allah for breaking family ties.

I know different family has different issues and one approach might not work with the other, but i'll just explain how we managed to avoid a clash in our family.

My grand father (mom's dad, her mother is still alive) died few yrs back and and the partitioning was delayed and delayed and finally people started to realize it and planned to carry out the partitioning.. they had 9 children (my mom and her brothers and sisters).

They are all really loving people actually and i cant imagine or tolerate anyone of them hating each other, but slowly fitna started to pop up, huge communication gap and people taking different meaning about what the other said and all that, shaitan had a really good time ! They had I think 3 meeting, i which everyone agreed to the terms on how to partition, but still the fitna started to popup and finally they had one more meeting with a Qadhi and a family friend (he was also present in previous meetings too) as their middle man. But this time, rather than leaving it all to themselves, i called up my cousin brother and made a small plan to tackle the issue.

The meeting started and we started to hear little shoutings and arguments heating up, we were in another room. Me and my cousin started our tricks, we started to test the waters by walking near by and popping our heads in and out, then we started to go and stand at the entrance of the room so that everyone can see us and know we are also listening..
once in a while someone among them would comeout of the room to drink some water or something, we would make fun of them not coming to an agreement yet and made them sure that we (their sons and daughters) are also listening and learning from them and we said how we can handle the situation better if they leave it us.. like we (their children) would just fight off and finish the deal.. well, all in our own funny way.. and they would simply smile

Finally we started our cameras and started recording the event, by then they had started to become mature, coz they understood we are also listening and they became extra neat when they saw the camera n: , we continued the recording till the qadhi read the new agreement out loud and everyone signing it. We made them sure that they cant now go back on this and we are documenting it this time with solid proof. And Alhamdulillah, everything is now settled and happy.

Indeed our presence there was a positive factor in making everyone a little careful in their words and actions, they cant let their children see how bad they can get

BUT, the same scenario cant be applied to yours.. i was just trying to explain how simple things can be helpful in keeping the family ties strong. Many factors like culture and tradition can greatly influence your situation.

You need to contact whoever you can within and outside the family who can help you and whom you can talk with, discuss with them and try to explore all the possibilities.

I pray and wish the best for you and your family.