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haha@desperate well yeah, I was desperately looking for a woman but I mean these girls were HAWT !! But anyways, good luck to you too metusion, seriously this book I referenced, Feeling Good by Dr.Burns (cant link the ISDN number as I have the french edition) is pretty good..

I think the best advice I can give for now is this (might not apply to everyone but it did for me)

Whenever you say 'Oh I am such a loser !!', replace this by 'Oh I FEEL like such a loser' because THAT is what is really happening.

You dont go from 'decent guy' to loser just because of a thought.. that makes no sense [thumbup], but we are our hardest judges so when you feel like a loser you are probably saying, I feel like a loser so I AM a loser. What I did is 'I am Fred and I FEEL like a loser, this is momentary, so now why am I feeling so loserish well its because of this, and that, blabla..'

Deconstructing your thoughts is important