No apologies necessary! we are all here to help each other inshallah. Honestly, i have ocd but not in that way. The only thing i can tell you is no one is going to just come and hurt your family unless allah swt wills it. If he does not will it then it will not happen, no matter how hard or scared you fell about it happening. what do you mean for their own benefit? also, why would they lie to you? like for what reasons do you think they are lying to you about?