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Old 01-10-2012, 01:41 AM   #6
Arratherimi

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Because she keeps telling me to get a boyfriend. It's not really her fault though because they were brought up being encouraged to get boyfriends so they can get married so it's now within our generation people are beginning to realise our culture and things we were taught aren't Islamic. So I can understand my mom because for generations that's how it was done so she and that generation doesn't understand how wrong it is.

But I was really out of line though telling her that she is the reason no one likes her etc. and yelling at her about money. Im lying in my room trying to understand just what happened. I just hate myself so much. I wish I could go and just talk to my mom and tell her I'm sorry.

I'm seen as a bad smell and I deserve it. I don't what came over me. I feel like when things go wrong that upset me and I try to keep calm it all explodes and goes horribly wrong.

I recently fell out with some of my long term close friends so right now I've got friends but no one to really talk to. And definitely I don't want badly about my mom to anyone who knows her. It's a long story with my old friends. I've tried to patch things up but it didn't work. I can't even express how lonely I feel but then I know Allah is always with you. but how can I expect good things after just shouting at my
Mother???! I have no right and my sister just told me too I was really wrong and went too far!

It'd be great if you could seek forgiveness from your mom even if its her mistake presently or in the future.

Definitely don't go looking for a boyfriend even if your mom says so. Its haram.

People I know have been through worse cases but through Allah SWT's help have come up trumps.

Honestly and very frankly speaking, your case isn't anything rare, the positives are:

You still have your imaan.

You've your head and heart in the right place - you didn't go looking for a boyfriend despite being allowed to. For that, you should be highly commended.

You don't have any financial problems.

What I'm trying to say is to look at all the positives in your life.

And,

You're 22, you have a long life ahead.

And an eternal life to seriously work for in this life.

For all that, can't you seriously do sabr for a few months? While in the mean time, get some senior members here on Sf or your parents to look for a guy to get married to.

What do you say?

Cry and gain nothing. Or some sabr and gain everything
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