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Old 09-21-2012, 04:43 PM   #27
romalama

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i need sincere opinion n suggestion regarding this matter explained:

" i am second wife to my husband. i got married on condition if he has divorced first wife, if not, then its her right to be with him, so he should go and re-conciliate with her, but my husband said, no, its over between him and his ist wife. i asked about divorce paper for confirmation and he made a fake divorce paper with false name and said, she is divorced.

later i used to see some signs of her existence in his life in my dreams, so i started asking questions and inquired, he would daily get her calls and finally came to know that she was not divorced. but my husband said, he will neither divorce her nor will take her back as punishment and i should not worry.
but my mother in law who does not want me to live with my husband as he lives abroad and wants me to work for her and serve her, when my husband arranger my visa and took me along so my mother in law said to me, you have challenged me, now i will give you damage that you never imagined in ur life and said she would call her son, i.e. my husband's ist wife back to her son's life, and will send her abroad to live with my husband and would bring me back to serve and work for her.
therefore, my husband did exactly the same. he is going to his country with me, will leave me there, bring the ist ex- wife back to live with him.
please guide me. i am very much confused and scared. my mother in law can do anything with me, anything out of islam, my husband forces me to live with her while she has already thrown her elder brother's wife out because she also wanted to live with husband.

my husband and his family cheated me, lied to me and my family, and deceived me in the most possible way. i feel that i have been used by him and his family for their own gain and he is obedient in doing anything his parents say saying that he cannot leave his family for me but also love me.
but i think everything is fake about him and his family. my husband forces me to accept his ex-wife mentioning islam allowed 4 wives. but i say, i have been deceived. i never wanted to be in polygamy marriage, thats why i had asked for divorce confirmation, he lied for it with no intention of geting her back ever, and now he wants her back saying he doesnt like her and he never intended to get her back in life but he is helpless because of his parents. and the ex wife herself never wanted to come back either until she came to know about me.
so i am vs. my husband, his ex and his family. guide me in light of islam where does my husband, his family, his ex and i stand? AS ssooon as possible please.
Allahu musta'aan sister, what a terrible mess muslims are in today. may Allah make things easy for you. when will muslims practice islam properly.

Dont become a slave to your mother in law and dont let your husband punish his wife, this is not from islam. either he stays married to her and fulfills his duties to her and provides for her, or he divorces her. he cant do what he's doing. what country are you from? do you have an islamic court system that will judge by shariah?
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