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**gactanync** · 08-23-2012, 06:28 AM

Hi BigEckk

Letting go of friends isn't easy. Sooner or later we all have to face that.

But being or feeling alone for a Buddhist should not be a burden, it is a lesson in letting go. Being alone is being all-one.

You said your friends are not caring for what you've done for them. I understand they are not being grateful, and that is not OK. But an expectant attitude is a burdensome construct for both, your friends as much as for yourself. The best way of doing something to help someone is with an independent mind and light-hearted.

If I were you I'd start with defining a goal for myself and let that be the judge (rather than some people or daily disappointments).

08-23-2012, 06:28 AM	#2
gactanync Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 413 Senior Member	Hi BigEckk Letting go of friends isn't easy. Sooner or later we all have to face that. But being or feeling alone for a Buddhist should not be a burden, it is a lesson in letting go. Being alone is being all-one. You said your friends are not caring for what you've done for them. I understand they are not being grateful, and that is not OK. But an expectant attitude is a burdensome construct for both, your friends as much as for yourself. The best way of doing something to help someone is with an independent mind and light-hearted. If I were you I'd start with defining a goal for myself and let that be the judge (rather than some people or daily disappointments).
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