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Young Master Eli,

Please refer to the Four Noble Truths. If your partner is understanding then maybe sharing these with her to read might help. However in case you don't have a copy laying around, I DO! YAY!

The Second Noble Truth refers to the arising, origin, and cause of our dissatisfaction and suffering. We desire, crave, and thirst for happiness, security, and indentity in this world of impermanence. Influenced by our misperception (ignorance/delusion), we want to satisfy our every craving, need, and desire. We want from life what it can never provide: constant happiness, pleasure, and security undisturbed by change or loss. When life fails to satisfy our needs and desires, we experience fear, frustration, hurt, anger, pain, or suffering. Afflicted with such thoughts we tend to speak and act in negative ways which cause further suffering. Therefore our dissatisfaction and suffering do not come from outside ourselves. We cause our own suffering when we fail to realize that the impermanent nature of life is incapable of providing constant satisfaction for our craving, need, and desire. The origin and cause of dissatisfaction and suffering is our own misperception of reality (ignorance/delusion), self-centered desire (greed), craving, grasping, attachment to things that do not last, and our negative behavior.

To overcome dissatisfaction and suffering, it is essential that we clearly identify the causes of this experience; we deeply feel and fully understand these causes; finally, we choose to abandon, remove, and stop creating the causes of our suffering.

Hope that this helps.. I always find myself going back to the Four Noble Truths and Noble Eightfold Path.

It's a tough thing being young and having these kind of things pop up. Don't give in to temptation, explain that you would like to wait until you both are sure. There is nothing wrong with that.