[Logaleta]

Hi everyone, I recently started practicing Buddhism about 5 months ago with my 5 and a half long boyfriend. He knows a lot more than me but I've learned the basics. Well I have a big dilemma concerning relationship issues, I've been reading If Buddha married and it's a very good book but I'm still a little puzzled about something.

My boyfriend and I had a break in our relationship for about 4 or 5 months like a year and a half ago and we saw other people but since we we're both in very bad places in our lives we cheated on them respectively with each other. When we broke up with our respective partners I completely let go of any attachment to this other person because I didn't want to make him suffer more than I already had but my bf never let go of his ex partner and that bothers me.

First it was because of jealousy and I know it's a bad trait and I'm really working on it but then it was because he promised me he was going to let go of that attachment to her but later he went back on it because he says it was a "mistake" and he really considers her a very good friend.

Now, putting jealousy aside, it bothers me because first he went back on his promise and second because I see that relationship based on a lie because he never told her about any of the cheating that happened throughout their relationship so she has a false perception of him in a lot of ways and I feel like he's being a hypocrite because he's not following the Buddhist path of having honest relationships, and to be honest yes there's a little jealousy still there but I'm trying to put it aside. Am I completely wrong about everything?