[Galinastva]

There's a lot in what Jechbi said. Watch that you don't let yourself be victimized.


If he is actually practicing and not just posing, a detached approach would help you see him as being at a certain skill level. At a certain point on the path; not a permanent quality of his being. If he's practicing, he may eventually realize that he's acting out of attachment. If he's only pretending to be practicing, though, well, you might want to reconsider your attachment to him.

Ascertaining whether he's really practicing or only posing is the real challenge. I don't think that anyone else can really give you that insight. If you have doubts, ask yourself why you have doubts. What clues set you off to doubt? From a detached perspective, are they legitimate doubts, or a product of your attachment to him? That is, if you visualize yourself as an outside observer on your relationship, what advice would YOU give? If you visualize yourself as being the Buddha, for example...