[OlgaBorovikovva]

Rather than trying to "overcome" or "control" your sexuality, you might want to explore why your sexuality has become a problem for you. Do you have an addictive relationship with it? If so, remember that the addiction is a symptom of the problem and not the problem itself. Josh Korda of the New York City Dharma Punx group recently wrote an interesting blog post on addiction that you can find here: http://dharmapunxnyc.blogspot.com/2010/01/few-thoughts-on-addiction-sh ort-term.html

As mentioned by roadrunner above, sexual excitement is a natural occurrence. Whether we like it or not, it's how human beings evolved. Individuals who did not have high sexual motivation would not be as likely to reproduce. If you have a receptive partner, you have the option of engaging in sexual activity. If not, and you have a particularly addictive relationship with sex, remember that your behavior is simply a pattern. You have the option of "unpacking" sexual patterns in the same way as you do unpleasant emotions in Buddhism, using the three seals: notice (1) the physical sensations and (2) notice the accompanying thoughts without reacting to them (e.g., remembering that they are not "yours"/"you" [anatta]), that clinging to them causes stress [dukkha] and letting them pass like clouds in the sky [anicca].

If, however, you are using sexuality as a means of escaping stress or mediating suffering, problems occur. Sometimes compulsive sexual behavior is the result of stressful or disturbing childhood/adolescent experiences that the psyche attempts to neutralize by reliving the experience in a safe environment. If this is the case, the important thing is to uproot any tendencies towards self-recrimination for compulsive sexual behaviors (e.g., reminding yourself that it's not your fault) while gently undoing the reactive patterns that keep this behavior in existence. (A good book for this is Jack Morin's The Erotic Mind.)