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**Rexaviennatutr** · 10-29-2010, 07:39 AM

it doesn't say anything about the case

I mean the differences are negligible

3 out of 10 women liked White men (39 is still pretty low)
2 out of 10 liked Indian men

Not to mention it has to do with replies only, MAJORITY of the Indian males on OkCupid are pervs sitting in New Delhi sending disturbing messages to women asking them if they can visit them in America and do them.

Believe me, I studied that thing because it came up on TIME Magazine, I asked on the forums at OkCupid, about 20 users gave me that exact reply. I didn't tell them my race/ethnicity at first, I just said that I have a friend who is Indian and they told me that the low reply rate has to do with the perverted guys in Delhi sending girls disturbing messages.

PLUS it is MAJOR skewed, Latinas like ASIAN GUYS more than Black guys? I have lived in NYC and visited out west, Latina with Black guy was so common that you started to wonder if Latinas even date any other type of guys.

Take my word for it, the OkCupid chart is skewed.

I mean just look around, it says that Asian men are more liked than Black men, obviously not here in the US, Black guys get more play than Asian guys do.

Also MOST Indian girls I have known here in the US, even the UBER Americanized ones are dating Indian guys, you see exceptions but they aren't flocking to guys of other ethnic groups.

Oh and obviously Black women should be easy for me to date and marry right? WRONG, Believe me, down south or up North, I have had the toughest times getting with Black girls.

Online dating surveys = load of crap because there are so many holes to them.

30 percent? Not that high.

Plus, Hispanic? What about Hispanic? They come in so many shades. I have a Dominican friend that looks JUST like a Black American guy and an Argentinian friend that looks like a White Scandinavian guy, it is so skewed because Hispanic can be anything.

Oh and here in the US, ever since 911, I can tell you Middle Eastern guys are not getting that much play from the ladies. Come to NYC, tell any Latinas or White girls here that you are Middle Eastern, they will do everything to avoid you.

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OkCupid is a mostly White dating site, most Black girls I know have not even heard of it. You have to be White on the inside to even go on there.

Going on there I noticed this, 1 out of ever 30 girls was even worth looking at, the rest looked hideous. Pics were seriously photoshopped.

Obviously if you were to do that SAME survey on an Indian or Asian dating site, the results would come out significantly different.

Is the difference negligible?

It's obvious that women probably don't reply to every message they get since they're probably overwhelmed with them. But let me put it like this:

A white man sends 100 messages and he gets 30 replies.
An Indian man sends 100 messages and he gets 20 replies.

Assuming everything else is equal, how can we explain this difference? Pure chance? If that was the case, we would not see the same pattern for Asians and Latinas as well.

Pervs from New Delhi give Indian men a bad rep

First of all, there are pervs in every category, meaning that women would proportionally have faced just as many pervs of other races. But okay, let's say that the proportion of pervs is bigger among Indians than among whites, for whatever reasons. Then we must ask ourselves what they are doing sending disturbing messages in the first place. Does this perhaps imply something about the nature/culture/hobbies of men from this region?

The statistics are skewed

The statistics are always skewed one way or another. This is the best comparison I have seen so far when it comes to attraction.

Indian girls date Indian guys

Since I'm not Indian I have no substantial knowledge of this topic. But considering the peculiarities of Indian culture (arranged marriages, social expectations, family pressures) it is not necessarily so that dating implies attraction. It can be so that Indian women who date Indian men do so because they are not able (socially, culturally, etc) to date up the race ladder.

OkCupid is implicitly White

I don't know about this, but I suppose it could be true in some ways. But I would also say that it is a good indicator of the relative mate-values on the western liberal dating market. AFAIK, this is the only dating market where people of all races participate actively. Basically, there are going to be few people of other races on the Indian/Asian/Black dating market.

Asian or Indian sites would give a different outcome

I am sure that they would. The preference for white men and women as partners would probably be much higher than on the American site.

Edit: For what it's worth, here's some anecdotal input on the subject:

As for Indian men, they were the hardest people to match of any group of men or women of any race. And, with so many Indian men moving into the Boston area for jobs in high tech, rarely a week passed without several inquiries from men from India or Pakistan.

One reason they were difficult to match is that only a handful of Indian women joined over the decades, compared to hundreds of Indian or Pakistani men. But another is that many women, even the self-described “worldly” ones, expressed the stereotypical belief that Indian men had antiquated views of women.

To some extent, these women were correct. For example, of all the men I spoke with who wanted to meet women much younger than themselves, the largest group was, in fact, Indian men. Many told me that it was quite common back “home” for men to date and marry women at least a decade younger than themselves. And they wondered why they could not do the same here … which further lowered their DQ. http://www.seacoastonline.com/apps/p...7/-1/OPINION05

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Rexaviennatutr Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 569 Senior Member	it doesn't say anything about the case I mean the differences are negligible 3 out of 10 women liked White men (39 is still pretty low) 2 out of 10 liked Indian men Not to mention it has to do with replies only, MAJORITY of the Indian males on OkCupid are pervs sitting in New Delhi sending disturbing messages to women asking them if they can visit them in America and do them. Believe me, I studied that thing because it came up on TIME Magazine, I asked on the forums at OkCupid, about 20 users gave me that exact reply. I didn't tell them my race/ethnicity at first, I just said that I have a friend who is Indian and they told me that the low reply rate has to do with the perverted guys in Delhi sending girls disturbing messages. PLUS it is MAJOR skewed, Latinas like ASIAN GUYS more than Black guys? I have lived in NYC and visited out west, Latina with Black guy was so common that you started to wonder if Latinas even date any other type of guys. Take my word for it, the OkCupid chart is skewed. I mean just look around, it says that Asian men are more liked than Black men, obviously not here in the US, Black guys get more play than Asian guys do. Also MOST Indian girls I have known here in the US, even the UBER Americanized ones are dating Indian guys, you see exceptions but they aren't flocking to guys of other ethnic groups. Oh and obviously Black women should be easy for me to date and marry right? WRONG, Believe me, down south or up North, I have had the toughest times getting with Black girls. Online dating surveys = load of crap because there are so many holes to them. 30 percent? Not that high. Plus, Hispanic? What about Hispanic? They come in so many shades. I have a Dominican friend that looks JUST like a Black American guy and an Argentinian friend that looks like a White Scandinavian guy, it is so skewed because Hispanic can be anything. Oh and here in the US, ever since 911, I can tell you Middle Eastern guys are not getting that much play from the ladies. Come to NYC, tell any Latinas or White girls here that you are Middle Eastern, they will do everything to avoid you. ---------- Post added 2010-10-28 at 17:41 ---------- OkCupid is a mostly White dating site, most Black girls I know have not even heard of it. You have to be White on the inside to even go on there. Going on there I noticed this, 1 out of ever 30 girls was even worth looking at, the rest looked hideous. Pics were seriously photoshopped. Obviously if you were to do that SAME survey on an Indian or Asian dating site, the results would come out significantly different. Is the difference negligible? It's obvious that women probably don't reply to every message they get since they're probably overwhelmed with them. But let me put it like this: A white man sends 100 messages and he gets 30 replies. An Indian man sends 100 messages and he gets 20 replies. Assuming everything else is equal, how can we explain this difference? Pure chance? If that was the case, we would not see the same pattern for Asians and Latinas as well. Pervs from New Delhi give Indian men a bad rep First of all, there are pervs in every category, meaning that women would proportionally have faced just as many pervs of other races. But okay, let's say that the proportion of pervs is bigger among Indians than among whites, for whatever reasons. Then we must ask ourselves what they are doing sending disturbing messages in the first place. Does this perhaps imply something about the nature/culture/hobbies of men from this region? The statistics are skewed The statistics are always skewed one way or another. This is the best comparison I have seen so far when it comes to attraction. Indian girls date Indian guys Since I'm not Indian I have no substantial knowledge of this topic. But considering the peculiarities of Indian culture (arranged marriages, social expectations, family pressures) it is not necessarily so that dating implies attraction. It can be so that Indian women who date Indian men do so because they are not able (socially, culturally, etc) to date up the race ladder. OkCupid is implicitly White I don't know about this, but I suppose it could be true in some ways. But I would also say that it is a good indicator of the relative mate-values on the western liberal dating market. AFAIK, this is the only dating market where people of all races participate actively. Basically, there are going to be few people of other races on the Indian/Asian/Black dating market. Asian or Indian sites would give a different outcome I am sure that they would. The preference for white men and women as partners would probably be much higher than on the American site. Edit: For what it's worth, here's some anecdotal input on the subject: As for Indian men, they were the hardest people to match of any group of men or women of any race. And, with so many Indian men moving into the Boston area for jobs in high tech, rarely a week passed without several inquiries from men from India or Pakistan. One reason they were difficult to match is that only a handful of Indian women joined over the decades, compared to hundreds of Indian or Pakistani men. But another is that many women, even the self-described “worldly” ones, expressed the stereotypical belief that Indian men had antiquated views of women. To some extent, these women were correct. For example, of all the men I spoke with who wanted to meet women much younger than themselves, the largest group was, in fact, Indian men. Many told me that it was quite common back “home” for men to date and marry women at least a decade younger than themselves. And they wondered why they could not do the same here … which further lowered their DQ. http://www.seacoastonline.com/apps/p...7/-1/OPINION05
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