My mother, both my grandmothers and most of my aunts are lightskinned, there exists no tension or anything of the sort, musing of skin tone rarely come up unless someone is being described or if "true" lineages are being disputed . Also prohibitions of marriage based on skin tone are unheard of and a ludicrous thing to think of . I can only see crazy people ascribing to such a concept among my people. The only time there is true "tension" is when the media is involved. You will however see people with preferences for certain skin tones when it comes to mating though, but even then its not that big of a deal.
Right, ironically blacks are the biggest pushers of the one drop rule today and they follow it even more than the bible itself. (despite the odr having no validity whatsoever)
Do you feel that this is OK? What's your opinion on blacks that force this label upon mixed race individuals who we all know many times are not accepted by either blacks or whites. What's wrong with just saying your mixed race and not mentioning your part black/part white/part indian etc? I suppose it just doesn't sit well with me. People should identify with what they feel comfortable with. It isn't always about distancing oneself from the black community. Many times mixed race individuals truly feel in-between. When this is the case, they should not be pressured to pick a side. They are what they are. This is why Tiger Woods went out of his way to create his own race, cablanasian (or whatever) Phenotype will determine this anyway. If someone looks majority black then if they claim to be mixed, they will look foolish.