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HI

Seems like my Thai teenage stepson has gotten himself and family into
a domestic problem. He 17 spent the night with a 13 yr old girl.
now the father has threatend to kill him or send him to jail and wanted
300,000 baht. payment also.

the story though goes like this.

everyone warned son to stay away from this girl as she is bad news and her dad is a drunk and very crazy. people are afraid of him even his own family.

the girl came to stepson's village everybody told her to leave but she wouldn't go. she found step son and told him her dad had beat her again and she was afraid to go home. so she stayed with him the night. the next morning the girls family found her and stepson.

then the talking and negotiations began. my stepson's immediate family were all scared and didn't get much sleep for the first few days. the girls family wanted to talk to my wife and she how much she was going to pay.
My wife was mad and told son she wasn't going to pay and he could go to jail.

But she can't tell girls family that. She has to be very civil or else could be much violence casue the girls father is crazy,

she has been talking to girls grandfather to arrange payment as the father is too drunk and hot headed to talk too. she has gotten it down to 40,000 baht so far. and family is keeping stepson out of sight.
the threat of jail is mute as son is only 17

If this had happened in the USA I would have called the police and had girls father arrested for child abuse and death threats.
but in Thailand calling the police would only cause more problems as they would do nothing and it would make the father more mad.

the reason the father wanted so much money was because the girl is so beautiful. and I think because he knows I am farangs and all thai's think farangs have money.

I am now starting to understand more the Thai idea of sin sodt.

Young girls are thought of as a commodity. to make money
young boys are a liability. family has to take care of and pay for all their mistakes.

Many Thai familys have lost all their lands haveing to sell them to pay for
young men's sexual tryst or drunken accidents.

it's always the parents that have to pay for childrens mistakes and accidents.

So if you are thinking about marriage with older Thai lady with teenage children, realize you wil be financially responsible for them.

On a lighter side note

when my wife first called the grandfather she kept saying on the phone I can't hear you must be bad connection but I was sitting next to her and I could hear him fine. after phone call I asked her.
she said it was a way out if she got mad she could just hang up and he would think the phone connection was lost and not get mad at her for hanging up.