[StizePypemype]

I'll get to the point.

There's a girl at my work (i work in a school) who i like. I'm terrible in conversation with people i don't know well, esp girls i like. Well anyway....the only chance i get to talk to her is in the morning for 10 mins, at break for 10-20 mins and after i finished (her lunch) for 20 mins....

The rest of time we are both doing our job....i'm the IT Tech and she's a temp assistant in reception class. I thought i had till the end of the month to "try" but that's been reduced dramatically to ......next friday.

She leaves next friday....so i have a week to find out if she has a b/f and get her number or something

I've pushed myself to talk to her when i get chance, she seems to be sitting closer to me in the staffroom at breaks now and this morning she came up to me and talked instead of me trying to spark conversation with her. When we talk we both smile and laugh etc but i'm useless at reading signs and what not.

Ok...so i'm a shy person and i miss alot of oppertunities to talk with her and it pisses me off. But i just never know what to say.....
I have a low ego with girls as it is...

What can i say to find out if she's single without just saying "are you seeing anyone?"
I don't wanna let this one slip through me being to f***ing pussy to do something about it....
Sparking convo is more then i've done before lol....this time i really want to do this!

Any advice?

[Snweyuag]

Play it cool, chicks can smell desperation a mile off. Make her laugh. Poke fun at her in a flirtatious and jovial manner. Make eye contact at all times, laugh alot yourself. Appear to be the fun, strong, caring man that all chicks really want then at an extremely well timed juncture just look her in the eyes and ask if she fancies a drink sometime.

Then, once you've ensnared her with your dazzling wit and charm, make sure you don't become possessive, jealous, needy or obssessed.

Hopefully all these things should prevent her from seeking copulation from rival males.

These easy steps should see your little oscar getting polished in no time.

[paralelogram]

Pretty simple really, have a normal conversation with her without mentioning anything of the sort and then upon finishing ask her if she wants to go for a drink that evening....

Always difficult to tell but judging by the fact she made an effort to engage you means she is most likely interested and certainly expects you to make the first propersition!

Just pull yourself together and say something, I only wish oppotunities such as you have been involved with was so easy in Spain. You have no excuse, I have a language barrier to vault before I can make conversation!!!

Do it for your own sanity above all else, don't let your mind mess you around and question your motivation.

[Dilangfh]

Just ask her, i know its hard but the worst thing she can say is no. Then atleast you gave it a shot. I agree with everyone else. When the convo is flowing and you two are about to part, just ask if she'd like to go out for a drink. If she says yes, your in. If no then you atleast you two both dont have to linger round like school kiddies on detention because you were about to head off. I hate that uncomfortable silence after you get rejected and u both stand there like tools.

Goodluck, keep us posted!

[StizePypemype]

Thanks guys.

Sounds good...i'll have to time it right then lol...

Now i just need to pull my head out and instead of thinking of something to say i just need say something! lol

I'll be seeing her in the staff room in about 20 mins......argh.

[Hedkffiz]

Thanks guys.

Sounds good...i'll have to time it right then lol...

Now i just need to pull my head out and instead of thinking of something to say i just need say something! lol

I'll be seeing her in the staff room in about 20 mins......argh.

Live action!

I expect a full report back here in 50mins max. [thumbup]

[Unamannuato]

Go to the crapper like clockwork and make a point of this so she knows, regularity is the first sign a woman looks for in a man.

[StizePypemype]

pfft....

Well she was sat closer again instead of the opposite side of the room.
I started making small talk but as things went more people came into the staff room and conversation was interupted....then someone sat inbetween us. So like....i'd have had to think of something to say then shout it to her so she knew i was talking to her [thumbdown]

hmmmmm.....running out of time.


Atleast tomorrow is easy....i can ask her what she's doing over the weekend.

Don't think i want to ask her out yet.....I'm really in two minds about whether she likes me or not. She does smile at almost anything i say, but that doesn't really mean anything does it....i mean it's being polite.

What tell tail signs are there? It's virtually impossible to get a look....only a few times have i caught her looking and even then it's a split second turn away. I caught her eye in class for a few secs.....just as i was about to smile at her she looked away!!


Pfft......I don't know....

[StizePypemype]

Go to the crapper like clockwork and make a point of this so she knows, regularity is the first sign a woman looks for in a man.

Between 8.30 - 9.00am... 9 times our of ten i take a dump at work [thumbup]

[QYD8eQ8F]

WHAT EVER YA DO DONT TAKE A DUMP IN HERE POOL

[Hedkffiz]

WHAT EVER YA DO DONT TAKE A DUMP IN HERE POOL

I think you mean "her"?

If so, take a look at his location.

[QYD8eQ8F]

I think you mean "her"?

If so, take a look at his location.

lol yeah her pool lol

[boXGWf04]

Between 8.30 - 9.00am... 9 times our of ten i take a dump at work [thumbup]

You should return afterwards and tell her what the consistency was like. I hear girls like a guy on a high fibre diet.

[varrozans]

JYFIHP

or, if you're old skool

DHITB

[StizePypemype]

You should return afterwards and tell her what the consistency was like. I hear girls like a guy on a high fibre diet.

I need your number so i can get quick tips while i'm at work [thumbup] [rofl]

"Hey bebi....I took the biggest **** today....Solid as a goddamn rock. Wanna make out?"

I just noticed something. No one has said JYFIHP!!! EDIT: Seems i spoke to soon!

Anyways....anymore advice?

[replicajoy]

When your chatting find a common interest, something that evokes happy memories, like childhood, holidays/travelling rather than movies/music where opinions can be strong and you end up disagreeing.

[addifttiest]

What can i say to find out if she's single without just saying "are you seeing anyone?"

Is being honest with her such a problem? If I were you I would consider finally acting on your feelings and telling her about them. While you had plenty of time to remain inactive I bet that felt like a perfectly comfortable position to remain in but now the feeling of what you'll lose out on if you don't act sooner is actually spurring you on to do something. I suggest you use that impetuous to act in a manner you wouldn't usually, in other words daringly.

Let's be honest a lot of times when we are in this sort of situation is because we are scared of rejection. But...what have you got to lose? She'll be gone in a few days if you don't handle this right so does it matter risking a bit of rejection. Suck in your gut and be straight with her about it (I think you'll find women prefer men who can do that.) tell her something like you've been meaning to say something for a while and that the situation has made you realise how urgent it is and would she be interested in going out for a drink. See you've said something there that is bound to let on your feelings and impress a bit. When you actually get her there in a proper social situation then you'll have the chance to get to know her better and no doubt the conversation will start flowing easier.

And okay she could say she's got a boyfriend, maybe she's not all that interested but at the end of the day you've got yourself some practice at being up front with a woman and she'll no doubt feel a little flattered. It's a hell of a lot better than doing nothing and then feeling like a complete failure after she leaves next friday. You may not gain yourself a bird but you might get yourself a friend for your efforts.

You said at the start of your original post that you'd get to the point. I suggest you do. Take a chance it's often worth it.

[paralelogram]

The man is right, not sure how you would otherwise prefer it. I was in a bit of a pickle last Saturday when I went to a club with friends. Some very attractive English girls were dancing near us and after exchanging glances and smiles for a fair few songs I thought;

Sod this, I am not going to dance here all night when I could simply have a chat and then have a chance at dancing with some hot ladies! So I did that very thing, had a great time thanks to taking a chance. I find that situation very tricky normally (large crouds and having to talk with someone over music when they are with friends) but taking a chance was worth it as it made my night very fun.

But I would say a balance is necessary, a bit to tact is always a good thing. And being able to judge a situation; becomes easier once you are a little more experienced for sure

[IvJlNwum]

My advice, stop being a sissy... just do something... anything...

Girls dig confidence, and if you keep doubting yourself, and not taking any risks, you get nowhere.

You want to get her, keep one big thing in your mind, you are the catch not her. She should be digging you, not the other way around. You ask her out, because she has the hots for you, and it might be fun.

It works, believe me.

[theonsushv]

AllenofMinnesota speaks the truth.