[zCLadw3R]

You sure? It sounds exactly like you...

Yea, you're right. I'm so baaaad.

[nd90t3sf]

For hot women yeah, money in the meter......

[KellyMP]

I tend to open doors for everyone (I.E, if they are coming towards the door from the other side and could do with it being opened due to having arms full of stuff) or if they are following fairly close behind me I'll hold the door open behind me after I've walked through it..... I've always done it, never really pay attention to what gender the person is. Often people say thanks but not all the time.

Never really thought about it before.

Pretty much the same. Unless we aren't going to the same door. Aka if there are 10 doors entering a mall I won't go out of my way to open the door for them. its more of as I approach the door if someone is right behind me, or very near approaching from the opposite direction I'll open the door, or hold it open longer for them.

[br`lorance]

However, a good deed done simply for gratitude is not a good deed at all.

I agree, opening a doro and expecting to be thanked, or getting upset if you're not..is not really displaying a kindness towards someone, but rather an act of egotism.

[iouiyyut]

Always

[GoblinGaga]

I open doors to pretty much anyone if I'm in the situation to do that. Doors are also opened for me by men and women alike.

[Blolover11]

I agree, opening a doro and expecting to be thanked, or getting upset if you're not..is not really displaying a kindness towards someone, but rather an act of egotism.

Bullshit. If I do someone a favour, like holding the door open for them, I expect them to show some appreciation. Not just walk through and say nothing like I'm their servant. Like I said before, it's rude. It's like they stuck two fingers up at me.

[tinamasak]

Here is the way I see it.

I am not really talking about the person who is right behind you, or right in front of you but coming out. I am talking about the person that is 5 steps behind you, you open the door for them, let them through first, and effectively give them your spot in line at the bank, store... whatever.

It is not just the opening of the door that not saying thanks is rude, but the undisclosed likelihood you just placed yourself in a line behind them and the general disinterest that you just did them favors. While I am not doing it specifically for their appreciation, the utter lack of appreciation (from women, especially) really makes me reconsider if I am being too nice for my own good.

At the end of my life, if you added up all the seconds I stood holding doors open for inconsiderate asses, it would be weeks, for something that is almost completely thankless, and ultimately lowers my opinion of people in general.

[N1bNXuDb]

i hold the door for anyone directly behind me but dont let them go first.

maybe if they had a really hot ass and a really short skirt and beyond the doors was a really steep stair case

[jeockammece]

Bullshit. If I do someone a favour, like holding the door open for them, I expect them to show some appreciation. Not just walk through and say nothing like I'm their servant. Like I said before, it's rude. It's like they stuck two fingers up at me.

It's more rude to expect that random people should kiss your ass for something you decided to do without any prompting.

I can see that if they asked you to do it, then did not thank you, but that's not what happens.

You opened the door, you non-verbally offered to hold the door for them, don't voluntarily do things that you don't have to if you want to try and hold the other person to some obligation to you.

That is just being an ass.

And personally, I like seeing their eyes light up a bit and getting a smile, more than if someone would say "thank you".

[finnmontserrat]

I will, but only if I'm already the person in front and the other people are not far behind, this isn't specific to girls, however.

[outdog]

The real question is, do you...

A. Open the door for them and let them pass through first before you do

B. Open the door and then just hold it open as you walk through first so that the person can catch it by the time they walk through

C. Don't hold it open for anyone at all

I do B most of the time but if I'm in an exceptionally good more or the person behind me is carrying something or is elderly then I do A.

[Mello]

As a serious answer, I just hold a door open for a couple of seconds as I'm passing through, unless someone obviously needs help. I usually open doors for girls, clients and potential clients but not for a mate I'm walking with.

It's nice if someone says thanks when I hold a door for them, but it doesn't bother me if they don't. I'm sure I do some things that are deemed rude by others.

[adarmaSen]

It's more rude to expect that random people should kiss your ass for something you decided to do without any prompting.

I can see that if they asked you to do it, then did not thank you, but that's not what happens.

You opened the door, you non-verbally offered to hold the door for them, don't voluntarily do things that you don't have to if you want to try and hold the other person to some obligation to you.

That is just being an ass.

And personally, I like seeing their eyes light up a bit and getting a smile, more than if someone would say "thank you".

Kiss my arse? All I want is a simple "thank you".........

I certainly won't be doing you any favours........

As a serious answer, I just hold a door open for a couple of seconds as I'm passing through, unless someone obviously needs help.

This ^

[shumozar]

I'd say most of the time people say thanks. But I live 'up north' where people are generally friendly. Darn sarf I think there's a lot of miserable bastards who don't bother with manners. I am generalising here a bit btw.

It's similar to when driving on narrow roads, having to pull over to let oncoming traffic by (very frequent for me). I'd kind of expect a thank you wave, and 95% of the time i'd get one.

Expecting a "thank you" is nothing about arse kissing or ego's. It's just manners.

[Unlopssesuj]

Kiss my arse? All I want is a simple "thank you".........

I certainly won't be doing you any favours........


This ^

I wouldn't ask you too, in fact I'd open the door for you, as if you were a little old man..no thanks required.

As it is, why do you need the gratitude of strangers to be happy? That seems inordinately needy, and kind of creepy tbh.

[mitiaycatq]

I wouldn't ask you too, in fact I'd open the door for you, as if you were a little old man..no thanks required.

As it is, why do you need the gratitude of strangers to be happy? That seems inordinately needy, and kind of creepy tbh.

Kyros put it very succinctly: manners.

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It's funny how expecting people to show good manners is regarded by you as "creepy"......

TBH if I know before hand that someone won't bother to thank me for it I'd rather just let the door slam in their face.

[fotodemujerahldesnugdo]

Kyros put it very succinctly: manners.

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It's funny how expecting people to show good manners is regarded by you as "creepy"......

TBH if I know before hand that someone won't bother to thank me for it I'd rather just let the door slam in their face.

Then you're an ass who has no manners yourself.

Expecting people to thank you out of obligation for something they didn't ask you to do is very childish.

I don't know why I am bothering to try and explain that to YOU of all people, I think, as a perpetual child, you will never understand the idea.

To you, it's not about simply doing a good deed, it's all about the payoff and making yourself feel better. Blech.

[Baromaro]

Then you're an ass who has no manners yourself.

Expecting people to thank you out of obligation for something they didn't ask you to do is very childish.

I don't know why I am bothering to try and explain that to YOU of all people, I think, as a perpetual child, you will never understand the idea.

To you, it's not about simply doing a good deed, it's all about the payoff and making yourself feel better. Blech.

You're the one who doesn't seem to understand good manners, and I'm the child?

Some of us were brought up properly.

[pedFlicle]

Some of us were brought up properly.

One of us is still being brought up.