[VardyCodarexyz]

Hey All,
I am here to bitch and complain about my life so feel free to do the same. I hate my friends so I will look to you guys for advice and suggestions... Fixing people is just like fixing a PC right?

2011 has been a S**t year for me,
-Lost my dad
-Lost my Uncle
-Lost my Aunt
-Had to put my Pug to sleep
-Was bed ridden for 3 months with Gull Bladder infection.
-Work at a job I hate

But you know what hurts more then all of that crap, being in love with a girl that wants to date someone else... It sounds so stupid and simple like a bad movie and normally I would be making fun of people getting bent out of shape over a girl (my apologies I had no idea it was so crippling.) 2012 Looks like a much better year if those damn Mayans are right. So what do you guys do when you feel like crap and want to eat a bullet?

[RooxiaNof]

Hey All,
So what do you guys do when you feel like crap and want to eat a bullet?

Remind myself how lucky I am to have all the things that livIng in a devolped country provides me, or that I don't have some life limiting disability.

[joanbertis]

you gotta know that your not alone in this boat,
**** happen to everyone, ok you got a very unlucky year but can it be worst? yes
think out of the box, go do something you never ever did or never tough you could do, just for the thrill of it(if you dont want to. push yourself to do it. 10-20 sec of freefall off a plane is very nice. well it dit put me back on track anyway hehe)
and please dont let yourself down,cheer up and ffs GET SOME MEDICAL HELP!!! they are there to help you pull it trough and dont be shy about it

[WaydayFep]

you gotta know that your not alone in this boat,
**** happen to everyone, ok you got a very unlucky year but can it be worst? yes
think out of the box, go do something you never ever did or never tough you could do, just for the thrill of it(if you dont want to. push yourself to do it. 10-20 sec of freefall off a plane is very nice. well it dit put me back on track anyway hehe)
and please dont let yourself down,cheer up and ffs GET SOME MEDICAL HELP!!! they are there to help you pull it trough and dont be shy about it

I mean you are both right, I am not shy about how screwed up I am, I did seek medical help. Therapy did not work so well for me. I didn’t really offer any comfort for me. I am on medication that helps to a certain extent god knows without it I would be shooting it out with the cops for no damn reason. I was honestly thinking about skydiving that could be the kick to the head I need. I would like just one damn time something to go my way. I know my problems are no worse than anyone else but I really can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel.

[DebtDetox]

I think we all go down that road in different ways, I did too. At the pit of your being you need to find that SOB that says it's gonna take more than this to take me out.

Nothing is lost until itis lost. Life knocks us all to the mat once in a while. Look it in the face and say F-U and get off the floor and stand tall.

You'll make it buddy, even if it looks like poop right now. At the end you'll be OK and stronger. Hang in, I did.

[TorryJens]

Deleted. Lots of personal info id rather not have openly available on the web now that its been read by those interested.

[Imagimifouxum]

Thanks J, I read it all. You had a rough run for sure man. It gives me hope if you over came that I can overcome this. You guys honestly no kidding have done more for me then my therapist. I just gotta keep on trucking. I cut ties to the girl I liked as childish as it is, deleted her number got rid of all my text messages unfriended her just going to move on.

[VipInoLo]

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Murder. I would recommend trying something you wouldn't normally do, but in a positive way. Take a solo vacation somewhere to get away for a little while. You'll grow from the experience, and it might just give you some perspective as how this is simply a phase that will pass in time. I've done it myself, and came back a new person. [yes]

[Mediconlinee]

The thing that always kept me going when my life really sucked was the thought that at any time, I could just drop everything and go somewhere else and start fresh. I've never had to do it, but the thought of that option being there means that no matter how shitty life gets I have an escape that results in me being living and happy.

Sounds like you might need to look into that option. Move somewhere else, go to a new country, get a new job, meet new people.

[RooxiaNof]

I don't know what to say to help, but if you can find the time I'd say working out. While it might sound silly it has a sense of progression, you feel better directly after a work out and feeling fitter/stronger improves confidence. Also while you exercise it gives you time to think and sort problems in your head.

[Suvuseh]

Man it´s really been a shitty year for you, i´m sorry to hear that.
Losing family is never easy, sadly it´s a part of life and imo it´s something we all go through and i must say grow from.

So what do you guys do when you feel like crap and want to eat a bullet?

Tbh when the sh!t hits the fan i try and spend as much time as i can with my wife and kids,
sure when i feel like losing some steam, visiting friends, having a few drink and just hanging out helps too, but sometimes all i need is to sit down with my son (5) and do something as simple as playing Lego´s. Completely losing all those responsibilities we as grownups have, all the problems and stress and just well being a child again for a while.

[numinertyuesk]

The last 3 years of my life have been complete and utter ****.

Ever since my rare stroke.

Blah, don't even feel like explaining everything again... tl;dr : I am even more depressed and feeling worse.

[OpVJokl8]

Sorry to hear that Alaska, its a long slow process, my dad had one of those a few years before he died and it was a long hard recovery and he did get better from that anyway. I don't have the means to up and move I don't think I could. I really miss the girl I am fusing over too, I wish I could be man and still be friends but when i see the other guy i want to stab him and he is a nice guy.

I got my application out there now trying to move out of the it field.

[gusunsuth]

Regarding the girl, think about all the little things that annoy you about her, before long she won't seem anywhere near as desirable. Pretend she has an STD or something, if that helps.
One thing I'm sure off, she certainly won't have any interest in you if you're moping around feeling sorry for yourself.

[PrettyFifa12]

I was honestly thinking about skydiving that could be the kick to the head I need.

DO IT! It's in your mind, fermenting. Let it grow! Seriously, you should try it. Do something that scares you and forces you to learn to adapt to it!

I also have been going through a rough patch, also started by a woman. More specifically the rejection from said women when I was really into her and made my move, but fell short.

I found that exercising, and *attempting* to focus all my energy and attention to it, has made me feel better in the sense of a goal to look forward to.

Also music. I know it sounds cheesy, but I really found some strong connections to all new types of music, past and present, that I probably would have never listened to if I wasn't in a such a depressed mindset. I'v learned that i'm not the only one who's gone through things like this before, and that's comforting to know.

I used to play bass, but I had to sell my guitar a few years ago. I'm really considering picking one up again with my tax money [thumbup] and maybe a pipa while i'm at it

This may not be your cup of tea, but here's some awesome songs to lift your spirits up!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rV9VuPkIIv4

and of course, the classic...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5NAPZp2w-o

[mensforyouthis]

If I may express my opinion...
It seems that the fact that the girl you gave your heart to wants to move on overwhelms all your other problems (as far as feelings go)

Love is the only feeling that can really tear u apart!

Im sorry to hear about it all, but Im mostly sorry about the heart break..It hurts the most!!

Try to get a positive spin on things...Thats all I can recommend

[PypeDeft]

If I may express my opinion...
It seems that the fact that the girl you gave your heart to wants to move on overwhelms all your other problems (as far as feelings go)

Love is the only feeling that can really tear u apart!

Im sorry to hear about it all, but Im mostly sorry about the heart break..It hurts the most!!

Try to get a positive spin on things...Thats all I can recommend

Indeed it is, I can take death in strides compared to caring for someone who doesn’t like you back.

@Gordo, your right about moping around I am handling very poorly pretending like we never met which sucks cause I don’t want to not see her again. On the other hand I can already feel myself turning my emotions to hatred against her. I also get a sneer on my face when I think of her which I can deal with hate easy enough.
It makes me feel better knowing I am not the only one that gets his ass kicked by a girl. Some of you guys suggested working out, I used to do that every day then stopped the last three or four months. It never occurred to me how much better I felt I am getting back into running now that the days are getting longer.

[Dwnijzhd]

Hey guys,
Thanks very much for all the advice and sharing your stories with me. I went for a run yesterday and it felt great, I called my doctor he told me we could increase the amount of medication since I was on a low dosage so I am hoping that will help me continue to feel better. I also decided to take it like a man and still hang out with my friends I would rather just be a friend then nothing.

[b7RKli4l]

Re: the girl. Yeh, it bloody sucks when that happens, but you'll get over it is the good news.

Why do you hate your friends? Are you being intolerent or are they really just bad people?

[fereupfer]

How are they your friends if you hate them? Doesn't make much sense!