[ViagraFeller]

I also am slightly depressed. I hate my job, and am having a hard time finding a new one that offers me what I need to survive (pay). It's eating away at me because I find that my employer assumes that because I don't already have kids or wife/girlfriend that I can be worked crazy ass hours all the time. This makes it virtually impossible for me to find anyone
I moved a hour away from my friends and family for this job, and I simply have never been more alone in my entire life.
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I push through it, using what free time I have keeping myself busy, but when I get idle time, I get really, really lonely and it sucks.

That's almost exactly what's happening to me!

I work in a hospital and almost every weekend people try to guilt me into taking their call. "You're young and single, you can work!" **** that [cursing] just cause you have 7 kids doesn't mean you get to unload your duties on other people and call off and leave early whenever you want. [cursing][cursing] So frustrating!

[wentscat]

So had another awesome occurrence happen yesterday, 7:30am I get a call from boss telling me one of the techs up and quit. We are a small company and already shorthanded so now we have a two people including myself doing all the break/fix work for 1200 PC's. It’s good to be alive.
On the other hand I started talking to the girl I am in love with again, that made me feel better for the most part. Still hurts like hell and makes me want to snap but ignoring was even worse I guess. Maybe I will try one of those dating sites, who knows worth a shot right?

"Mentally ill depressed sociopath looking to meet good women to share my adventures with."

[slarceSelia]

"Mentally ill depressed sociopath looking to meet good women to share my adventures with."

Sounds like you're their target demographic.

Honestly, soon enough you'll realise this bint ain't perfect and you'll snap out of it.

[Pedsshuth]

Sounds like you're their target demographic.

Honestly, soon enough you'll realise this bint ain't perfect and you'll snap out of it.

Maybe I will end up on a commercial haha. If we can get this guy a mate we can do it for anyone.

Not sure what bint is?

[TXmjLW9b]

Maybe I will end up on a commercial haha. If we can get this guy a mate we can do it for anyone.

Not sure what bint is?

bint = woman.

[Jxlacvio]

bint = woman.

Well don’t think anyone other than me is perfect. She has her flaws without a doubt but I am sure it’s one of those since I can’t have her it hurts twice as bad.

[Qdcqxffs]

So had another awesome occurrence happen yesterday, 7:30am I get a call from boss telling me one of the techs up and quit. We are a small company and already shorthanded so now we have a two people including myself doing all the break/fix work for 1200 PC's. It’s good to be alive.
On the other hand I started talking to the girl I am in love with again, that made me feel better for the most part. Still hurts like hell and makes me want to snap but ignoring was even worse I guess. Maybe I will try one of those dating sites, who knows worth a shot right?

"Mentally ill depressed sociopath looking to meet good women to share my adventures with."

Be more of an alpha male. Just talking to her (being near her) wont help you at all. Believe me. Just one hint from her during a little conversation that the last night she spent with that hot bartender was fantastic and you're back in the mudd. Let it hurt, no one can help you with that, but start to go out again. Freeze her and see what happens. If she gets back to you then its good, if not then you at least can be certain that it wont work.

That's what I'll do this weekend (and make sure she'll know about it). Since I cant get her I'll force myself to see other women. And if its just to be able to see the fact again, that other mothers have nice daughters too.

[Unoloknovagog]

Be more of an alpha male. Just talking to her (being near her) wont help you at all. Believe me. Just one hint from her during a little conversation that the last night she spent with that hot bartender was fantastic and you're back in the mudd. Let it hurt, no one can help you with that, but start to go out again. Freeze her and see what happens. If she gets back to you then its good, if not then you at least can be certain that it wont work.

That's what I'll do this weekend (and make sure she'll know about it). Since I cant get her I'll force myself to see other women. And if its just to be able to see the fact again, that other mothers have nice daughters too.

I know you are right; I see him or hear his name and it starts all over. Damn it dude you are making me depressed again haha. Eff it I will walk

[hexniks]

I know you are right; I see him or hear his name and it starts all over. Damn it dude you are making me depressed again haha. Eff it I will walk

Just snap out of it and make an objective decision tbh.... "am I going to keep moping about over this girl I can't have.. being all "in love" and gay about it" OR "I should stop moping about and go and get another girlfreind if that is what I really want"... You have nothing at all to gain from moping around over a girl you cant have... She probably loves the attention and the fact that you like her and is just milking it...

[TNgqZhLR]

You need to sever contact with this woman, trying to be "just friends" will not work when you have feelings for her, it's like a crack addict who's trying to quit, but keeps having that one more rock "because it makes him feel better." Not to mention that you are setting yourself up for a fall, as has already been said, the time will come when she'll tell you too much, and you'll end up back at square one.

[imporesweemo]

You need to sever contact with this woman, trying to be "just friends" will not work when you have feelings for her, it's like a crack addict who's trying to quit, but keeps having that one more rock "because it makes him feel better." Not to mention that you are setting yourself up for a fall, as has already been said, the time will come when she'll tell you too much, and you'll end up back at square one.

Yeah I know it, like you guys said stop being gay about and be an Alpha male. Going to lay low for a couple weeks I think to get my head on straight then come out swinging.

[cakaeroryrere]

murderweapon *sigh*, DONT LAY LOW. Dont stay at home during the weekend!

I really am in the same situation as you. But it wont help you or me to be shy.

Build up a little attraction (tell her casual funny things, talk about your nights out) and be ambeguous when she talks about her lover. When she says they went out to eat you say "hopefully he had a good Steak" or something. Then she'll go one about that it wasnt a Steakhouse blabla...

Make her feel comfortable in your company. That doesnt mean you're on the friendship ladder, but give her the room for talking about nonsense things and every now and then you make a ambiguous sexual comment. "Yeah, I wonder how she made it into the Mini Cooper with those bells" blabla

Then ask her to have a coffee with you damnit. I mean DONT think about "what if she says no", because the worst thing that can happen is that you get to a point where you are right now already. So what? At least then she knows that you're still after.

And pleeeeeeeease start to think about how many other nice women there are on this planet. It helped me to just sit on a bench downtown, sip a coffee, and just look at people. The problem is you idealize her. Dont. Even with all those feelings you must be able to see that she isnt perfect. Great, but not perfect.

Number four is the hardest thing to do, I know. But eventually it will get to you that she isnt out of your league but that she's just in another one. And yours is just as much fun.

[Creva4k]

I guess I'll turn this into livejournal too.

I'm 26, I feel like I've underachieved in everything in life and I think that the "forever alone" guy is hurtful because I can very much relate to that. I don't have any real friends (as in friends I would share everything with and to rely on) and now I'm having some girl problems too.

I dated this wonderful girl for about one year, ended like in November maybe? I pretty much screwed up because I kept in touch with my previous GF, she found out and freaked over it. She said she was too hurt and couldn't be with me anymore, and that I betrayed her and all that stuff. From then her reactions went from "Don't want to talk to you ever again", to talking to me normally, to talking to me like nothing happened. I was with her last week and she cried a lot, hugging me and saying that she couldn't do it, I kept saying that I wouldn't let her go, because I like her a lot and I "would make things right this time".

Last week she suddenly stop replying to my messages, became very cold and very distant. I tried everything to talk with her, and today I spend all day trying to call her so we could talk things out. She kept replying with messages saying that it's over, she doesn't want to be with me, that she no longer wants to see me ever again. I insisted until she picked up the telephone. She was sounding VERY angry and irritated, saying that she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore, saying that she has no feelings for me, and she desires not to see me ever again. I tried being calm with her, saying that that doesn't make more sense... She then said she met someone and she's very in love with that person and doesn't want to hear of me anymore and go on with her life.

I was very surprised, mostly because last week everything seemed going ok, she even said she missed me and stuff, and now out of nowhere she says she has someone and its over me. I kept saying that I wanted to talk to her face to face, and that if she told me all that I would respect her and let her be. She agreed to meet me up tomorrow in her lunch break.

I'm very insecure, kinda shocked, and without knowing what to do. I like her a lot, I really think we could make things work out... I'm not sure if she really has got someone else, or if that she is so hurt and told herself so many times that we wouldn't work out, that snapped thinks this is the easier way for her. I'm feeling really depressed and really could use her support, but not even as a friend she wants to see me.

TL; DR: Girl problem.

Thanks, had to take it out my chest.

[ovH9wfSJ]

She might have a really big hairy muff and a fishy vagina

[Snweyuag]

murderweapon *sigh*, DONT LAY LOW. Dont stay at home during the weekend!

I really am in the same situation as you. But it wont help you or me to be shy.

Build up a little attraction (tell her casual funny things, talk about your nights out) and be ambeguous when she talks about her lover. When she says they went out to eat you say "hopefully he had a good Steak" or something. Then she'll go one about that it wasnt a Steakhouse blabla...

Make her feel comfortable in your company. That doesnt mean you're on the friendship ladder, but give her the room for talking about nonsense things and every now and then you make a ambiguous sexual comment. "Yeah, I wonder how she made it into the Mini Cooper with those bells" blabla

Then ask her to have a coffee with you damnit. I mean DONT think about "what if she says no", because the worst thing that can happen is that you get to a point where you are right now already. So what? At least then she knows that you're still after.

And pleeeeeeeease start to think about how many other nice women there are on this planet. It helped me to just sit on a bench downtown, sip a coffee, and just look at people. The problem is you idealize her. Dont. Even with all those feelings you must be able to see that she isnt perfect. Great, but not perfect.

Number four is the hardest thing to do, I know. But eventually it will get to you that she isnt out of your league but that she's just in another one. And yours is just as much fun.

Maybe the I won’t lay low, I will try and break my trend and meet some new people at other places. As for the girl, she knows I like her no mystery there. I didn’t dance around that I told her flat out, she is not the kind of teenage age girl that does it for attention she said flat out she was interested in someone else but she wants to be friend’s blah. I have to thank you for your comments you are very positive and make feel better, level headed person unlike myself.

[Alkanyadela]

I guess I'll turn this into livejournal too.

I'm 26, I feel like I've underachieved in everything in life and I think that the "forever alone" guy is hurtful because I can very much relate to that. I don't have any real friends (as in friends I would share everything with and to rely on) and now I'm having some girl problems too.

I dated this wonderful girl for about one year, ended like in November maybe? I pretty much screwed up because I kept in touch with my previous GF, she found out and freaked over it. She said she was too hurt and couldn't be with me anymore, and that I betrayed her and all that stuff. From then her reactions went from "Don't want to talk to you ever again", to talking to me normally, to talking to me like nothing happened. I was with her last week and she cried a lot, hugging me and saying that she couldn't do it, I kept saying that I wouldn't let her go, because I like her a lot and I "would make things right this time".

Last week she suddenly stop replying to my messages, became very cold and very distant. I tried everything to talk with her, and today I spend all day trying to call her so we could talk things out. She kept replying with messages saying that it's over, she doesn't want to be with me, that she no longer wants to see me ever again. I insisted until she picked up the telephone. She was sounding VERY angry and irritated, saying that she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore, saying that she has no feelings for me, and she desires not to see me ever again. I tried being calm with her, saying that that doesn't make more sense... She then said she met someone and she's very in love with that person and doesn't want to hear of me anymore and go on with her life.

I was very surprised, mostly because last week everything seemed going ok, she even said she missed me and stuff, and now out of nowhere she says she has someone and its over me. I kept saying that I wanted to talk to her face to face, and that if she told me all that I would respect her and let her be. She agreed to meet me up tomorrow in her lunch break.

I'm very insecure, kinda shocked, and without knowing what to do. I like her a lot, I really think we could make things work out... I'm not sure if she really has got someone else, or if that she is so hurt and told herself so many times that we wouldn't work out, that snapped thinks this is the easier way for her. I'm feeling really depressed and really could use her support, but not even as a friend she wants to see me.

TL; DR: Girl problem.

Thanks, had to take it out my chest.

Welcome to our little club bubby, I won't be the one to give you much advise since I started this mess but I know around 26 or 27 I had a identity crisis. Kind of like a young man’s midlife crisis. I wasn’t where I wanted to be (still not in most areas) friends started getting married and dating in serious relationships. You are a young man still and got lots of time to change whatever you want.

[Forex Autopilot]

Jesus, let's all grow some ****ing balls shall we?

murderweapon - it's a problem, it will get better over time, suck it up.

Streifenkarl - you're German, you're supposed to be depressed. Stop boasting about it.

arcalion - only gay 26 year old men have friends they tell everything to.

[NikolaAAA]

Tbh this thread is full of ****, i'm going through stuff at the moment.

See your ****ing doc, no-one on here can help for ****s sake.

Suck it up.

[radikal]

Welcome to our little club bubby, I won't be the one to give you much advise since I started this mess but I know around 26 or 27 I had a identity crisis. Kind of like a young man’s midlife crisis. I wasn’t where I wanted to be (still not in most areas) friends started getting married and dating in serious relationships. You are a young man still and got lots of time to change whatever you want.

Yeah sometimes I feel that what should be the best years of my life are gone and I have nothing to show. And I keep thinking that I'll never be able to share my life with someone.

I'm afraid my balls have retracted, hopefully they'll be back soon.

[Jon Woodgate]

Ok, you all need to grow up and man up. If life isn't how you like seize it by the balls and make it your bitch. You people with women problems, grow up they don't like you. Get over your egos and go do online dating or throw yourselves into volunteering and charities. Honestly, most of your issues are self inflicted and it's irritating to see you all whining. This whole "woe is me" attitude does absolutely nothing towards bettering your situations.