[loginptsa]

I'll take that as a compliment.

Please do. Twas my intention. I am actually going to try that with a difficult situation ongoing as we speak.

[LeslieMoran]

Just tell the guy you don't want to play when he calls you and never call him, it isn't rocket science.

[erubresen]

I have had people quit playing with me because I would always play better than them.

Has happened to me also, one guy from work would play quite a bit & then I started routinely out driving him & beating him by 10+ strokes...& that was just 9 holes. He never said anything but he still goes golfing, just doesn't ask me, & that's fine as I really don't care.

I just don't understand this gentle thing.I also don't understand why so many are afraid of telling the truth.

Guess,you never want to be friends with me,cause I speak my mind and tell the truth no matter what.

I can be pretty blunt & caustic myself. I don't & won't waste my time worrying if someones poor little feelings might get a little bent.

[zoneouddy]

I've found that if I don't want to play golf with someone, I probably don't want to be friends with them either. I've had this happen with two guys I used to play with. One was loud and obnoxious, the other was just too self-centered.

My life is better now for not playing golf with them or keeping in close contact anymore.

[ArrichMer]

I have a group of golf friends - the most socializing we do is a drink or dinner after a round. Two of them have become real friends. Most of our activities still center around golf, but we have confided more about ourselves than just our handicaps.

[Zpxbawtz]

I've found that if I don't want to play golf with someone, I probably don't want to be friends with them either. I've had this happen with two guys I used to play with. One was loud and obnoxious, the other was just too self-centered.

My life is better now for not playing golf with them or keeping in close contact anymore.

I don't know about this one, some people are completely different on the golf course than they are elsewhere.

Regarding the OP, it's a tough one to answer, I like the truthful approach, but at the same time, I know many folks who can't handle blunt honesty and if I told them I didn't want to play with them because it wasn't enjoyable, than that'd probably be the end of that relationship...

But I think really, it's a lot on how you want to be perceived. If tell the truth, feelings might get hurt and you might lose a friend, but if you go the opposite and avoid the person, than feelings will also get hurt and you might lose a friend...

So with the whole damned if ya do and damned if ya don't situation, it all comes down to how you want to be perceived.

[freeprescriptionplanrrx]

I admire your frankness. Please put into words exactly what you would say to a guy you've been playing with for years who you don't want to play with anymore?

Tell us why you don't want to continue playing with this fella

[loginptsa]

Just tell the guy you don't want to play when he calls you and never call him, it isn't rocket science.

Yeah, actually it IS rocket science.

1) What if he continues to call, thinking you just had an off day?

2) What if he drives by the course and sees you playing with others or on the day you said you didn't want to play.

3) You'd like to remain his friend but you don't want to play golf with him anymore because he's too annoying out there. Never call him?

4) Last, but not least, you REALLY don't want to hurt his feelings.

It's a little more complicated than at first blush.

[freeprescriptionplanrrx]

You seem paranoid.

Just say hay frank we need to talk. I like you frank and want to remain friends and all,but we can't play golf together anymore.Then list your reasons.

[ArrichMer]

See below.

Yeah, actually it IS rocket science. No it's not.

1) What if he continues to call, thinking you just had an off day? That's what caller ID is for.

2) What if he drives by the course and sees you playing with others or on the day you said you didn't want to play. Tell him that they invited you and had 3 others already.

3) You'd like to remain his friend but you don't want to play golf with him anymore because he's too annoying out there. Never call him? Invite him to dinner or something else that takes place in the dark.

4) Last, but not least, you REALLY don't want to hurt his feelings. So don't. Just don't tell the truth.

It's a little more complicated than at first blush.